8 kids only raised 7
By mizhotshyt
@mizhotshyt (18)
United States
January 15, 2009 6:11pm CST
My mother had 8 kids and out of the 8 I was the only one adopted and I grew up thinking my mother had past on due to cancer but about three years ago I put in a search for my oldest siblings and found my sister and from their I learned more about my mother and that she actually was alive and well. Ok that's good and all but I still have this kind of animosity towards her for keeping me even though my life has turned out to be pretty good I can't ask for it to be any other way but everytime I talk to her I have so many questions that just go unanswered but wut really gets me angry is when she tries to give parenting advice especially when all her oldest kids spent most of their lives in and out of foster care till the system got tired and sent them back. C'mon now this lady doesn't do anything for her struggling kids or her grandkids but feel we owe her or should I say they owe her something cuz she wouldn't know what I look like if I past her but to shorten this up should I give up on the answers that im looking for and forget she exist or should I try to give her a shot......oh by the way we only been communicating through telephone calls. I need to know if this was you how would u handle it.
2 responses
@morticia1 (42)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Hi mishotshyt,I kind of know how you feel.My mother was married with two very young children and her husband passed away.Then she married my father and they had 4 children (me being the youngest).
When I was 9 months old my mother ran off with another man and left all 6 children with my father.My mother had another child with this new man.My father bought me up and my older siblings by himself,he has passed away now,and my mother is still alive.I probably have seen her once every 5 or 10 years but she is a complete stranger to me ,and I have no bond whatsoever with this woman.My father never remarried so I was bought up single-handedly by my father.As far as I am concerned she has 1 child and granchildren from that child that she bought up.My children wouldn't know her if they fell over her and have no bond or ties at all.I have nothing to do with that half sister either(the child she had when she left)sometimes I think I would like to ask questions but have decided she is my birth mother only and has never been a mother to me,I was bought up with my father,a very good man and I have no mother!
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Hi there!
I am sorry to hear that. It seems that you have strong emotions hidden for your mother and I perfectly understand why. I guess a good heart-to-heart talk for once will set those hidden feelings free and may answer your questions and maybe when that happens, there will be a more harmonious relationship in store for both of you. I'd say give that talk a try since I feel like there is nothing to lose.
