How would you handle it?

In my opinion, people that inmediately sit right with us are overestimated. Everyone wants to meet people that laugh at their jokes, that pay them a compliment. Nice and kind people, in short. But these skills can be learnt. If a person impresses us perhaps it´s because he (or she) has learnt how to do it. Maybe that person is not sincere. You can´t like everyone. It´s a fact we all should accept.

I agree. If you pretend to be something you're not, it's just asking for trouble. If you and he get together permanently, you just set yourself up for years of pretending. What happens when you let your real self out? A lot of pain, arguments, and misunderstandings. Then there's the siblings. If he has a lot of them, it's going to be tough pretending with them as well. And when your true colors show, they're going to be really rough on you. It could cost the marriage. Why let yourself in for the heartache? No one can act all the time. That's what it would amount to. You'd have to wear your mask everytime you're with any member of his family. When would you have time to be you? Is it worth losing yourself, just to impress someone who probably isn't going to like you at first anyway? Seriously. Most mothers don't like who their child brings home. Not out of any dislike for that person, but because they see them as competition. Even if the child is 40 years old, mother will lose a part of her child when they get married. I know there are exceptions. It's just better to be yourself. Saves so much misunderstandings later. And there will be misunderstandings anyway. That's what happens between people who see each other a lot!