January 16, 2009 2:29pm CST
A lot of us are poor listener, merely decided to try to listen harder cannot work. We have to develop our listening skill. A lot of time when conversing I am so eager to get my point across that I dont wait untill the other person finish his or her point. But if we can be aware of our problem, and try to do what it takes to remedy it then we will be able to develop our listening skill
18 Jan 09
When our children are young we teach them to wait until the other person has finished speaking BEFORE they talk. We also teach them to listen to what the other person is saying so that they can answer correctly. Somewhere between childhood and adulthood these lessons fly out the window and many people actually stop listening and often talk over the other person. When someone else is talking we should give them out whole attention. Use our ears to listen to the person who is talking to us and do not let our attention wander off. Look at the person who is talking to us and remember the key points that they are saying so that we can respond appropriately. Many people listen to others but do not hear what they are saying. In other words they do not absorb the conversation at all but hearing can be achieved it we want to do that. It is a matter of concentrating on what the speaker is saying.
18 Jan 09
One of the things that you can do to increase your attention to the person talking is by looking at him/her. Let yoor ears listen to the words being spoken while your eyes focus on something else, maybe the face. If there is an urge to speak out before the other person has finished speaking take at least one slow deep breath while counting to ten. At first you may find it difficult to control yourself but later on you may find it easier to do so, all the best, rosdimy