being a young mother of two

Every mother feels overwhelmed, dont feel like you are the only one who experiences that feeling. I am 32, I have 5 children, my first one at 18 just like you, he is now 14 and my youngest is 2 and a half, in between there are 11, 10, & 9. Be happy with your two boys and make the most of it because they are so special and so are you. Every mum, young and old feels like they are at their wits end or they want to just run away and hide for ten minutes but at the end of the day when they are sleeping and you look at how innocent they are, be proud to know that you are the one who is putting in the time and the hard work it involves to raise these beautiful children. Good luck with your boys, one day they will grow up and thank you.

First of all,to congratulate you on so young and have two children, I very much like a child, but I did not you so lucky and so young can have their own children, so I am very envious of you. Of course, you have to take care of their children so young, it is also a certain degree of pressure, in some ways, the fact you have not yet fully mature, a lot of things can not be a good deal, this is where you pressure. However, since the matter is a fact, we should bravely face, and children can grow up and enjoy your children grow up with every day, rather than make it as a burden or pressure it into your everyday life perhaps it would better. Of course, I have just put forward my idea, maybe I still can not fully understand your situation, but still want to help you.

my sister has two kids 3 & 2y.o. although she's not as young as you, i see that she gets really stressed out. her kids are so hyper, always having tantrums. the 1 hour i spend taking care of them i feel all my energy is gone. i see my sister sometimes get frustrated and just look at them while they do each of their business. but i'm sure she wouldn't change anything. she loves her kids very much, as any mother does. you just need a little time for yourself to de-stress.

I am 30 years old, I had my daughter when I was 22 and my son I had when I was 28. I feel overwhelmed a lot as well. I don't really think it is how old you are when you become a mother, I think that being a mother is just totally overwhelming period. My sister did have her children close together like you did. I believe they are 14 months apart. I was a teenager when she had them and I remember always trying to help her because I knew it was hard on her trying to take care of two babies at once. Now I am a single mother and I actually have a teenager who helps me a lot with my kids, so maybe what the saying, "What goes around comes back around". I think that saying is normally meant to mean that if you do bad things it will come back to you, but I also believe that it means that good things come back around to you too.

Amanda I understand completely how you feel. I was 17 and a senior in high school when I found out I was pregnant with my oldest. I had him at 18 and I got pregnant with my second child at 21 and I was 25 when I had my youngest. I was a single mom with my first two. It is very difficult. I was married and shortly got divorced at 19. When I was married I still felt like a single mother because he was never around or even helped. I went to school full time and worked full time after I had my oldest. If it wasn't for mainly my grandfather I don't know what I would do. I was stress a lot of the time. I wish I would have waited to possible do something else in my life a different career, but I love being a mother and I wouldn't change that for the world. Now I'm currently a stay at home mom with my baby and my second child. I enjoy it, but I kinda miss the work field because I was working since I was 15 and now I'm taking classes for medical billing and coding so I can work from home. You aren't the only one that feels that away. I know several mothers (best friends) that we all had baby 18 and younger and wish that we would have waited and we know that god blessed us with these beautiful babies.

Everyone gets overwhelmed sometimes aving 2 kids at a young age can b e a handful trust me I know.. I'm 21 with a 18month old son and one on the way...I also have 2 step kids Ones almost 6 and the other one is 3... It seems hard and you will always wonder but the only thing you can really do is be a mom and love every minute of it... If you want to do something more look into childcare services and see what type of classes you can get into to do more. You might regret ha ving kids so young becasue it holds you back for a lil while but you will never regret having them...You can always go back and take that step forward in life... and the best part about that is when your kids get older they will be proud of you no matter what...

I had my daughter at 18 and I'm 21 right now and pregnant with #2. Being a young mom is hard, but I wouldn't change it for the world.

I want to welcome you to myLot and hope you learn to trust people here. You are indeed very young to have two children but I'm glad you gave birth and doing your best. When you feel you'd like to talk to someone just jump in and start a post and people will answer. It took me awhile but I wouldn't part with myLot for anything. Good luck dear and happy myLotting.

Welcome to myLot, Amanda198785. I don't think you are one of a kind it this. I'm glad you have found myLot and hope that you are able to find some understanding people who can relate to your situation. Having children that close in age could be stressful for any mom at any age. Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't get too caught up in that 'what if I would have waited' thought process. Enjoy being young, enjoy your kids.... they grow up so fast.

These days wont last forever. It is always difficult when they are young..especially being alone. I have been there. Now my daughter is 14 and very independent. Before you know it they will be in kindergarten and you will have a respite. Just hang in there! You can do it! And remember if you ever get too frustrated walk away! Go in the other room and scream just to get it out. I had to lol. Being a single mom is very difficult when they are young but it gets easier...it really does. Until then take lots of deep breaths and remember some day they will grow up and move out...even better some day they will be potty trained and able to cook their own food and do dishes LOL!

hey amanda welcome to mylot, wish that you will have a great time here. I know being a young mom is too hard a task. Sometimes you will face situations in which you will feel your self as immature but you have to act mature for your children sake. There are so much self interests & time that needs to be devoted to be a good mother which become very painful for a young mother. thingS BECOME MORE PAINFUL ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ARE A WORKING LADY.Its amazing in spite of the great pain how mothers show so much of dedication in bringing up their child & providing them with the maximum love of the world..

I think its perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of two children, especially at your age. But being a mom is a beautiful thing and its greatly commendable that you are doing this.