Long distance love affair

January 18, 2009 4:13pm CST
This is my first relationship. We have met a few months ago, and I fell in love with him. Only, it is so difficult because we are miles apart. He is working in another country. The only means of communication that we have is through a cell phone call. Even if we want to talk longer, still, we could not because of limited load amount...so sad... =(
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@Pleiades (846)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Cristina, I had to read and re-read your discussion many times over because I thought it was something I wrote. *lol* You wonderful girl...your first relationship? If it's going to be a long distance relationship, I'm not going to sugar coat it and tell you it's going to be easy, it's not. There's going to be times that when you don't hear from him for an extended period of time and you wait and wonder. Don't loose heart: never give up on someone you can't go a day without thinking about. I would suggest that early on, you and he establish some things you like the other to do. With us, I love emailing and IM'ing back and forth. Right now, that's our way of communication. Sure, there's the phone calls, but that depends soley on him as he's at a military base. Good luck. *Pleiades
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
I appreciate your comment so much. You know, it made me cry. I never really thought that someone like you would take time to read my blog and make a comment on it. I feel your sincerity in what you said, well maybe because we have the same situation that is why our posts are almost the same. He is my first relationship but we are not committed to each other. I love him so much! That I could give up my good life now just to live a simple life with him...
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
This week made me feel devastated. He did not replied my text messages for two days, and when my phone rang, i was so excited and hoping it was him...yes it was him... But the sad part is that, he told me that he wanted to have space because he is tired. I don't know why. We had no arguments before that. I cried my heart out while replying to his message, saying that it is ok. Though deep in my heart, i really wanted to die. For almost a week now, i keep on crying...it is very difficult for me. I want to fight for him because i believe that he is the one that God sent me. But I couldn't even text him (even though i really wanted to) because i want to give him the space that he asked for. It is really painful...really really painful... =(
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
i've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;) .
@abcnadz (460)
• India
22 Jan 09
i exactly knw wot u r feeling. me and my guy have been int his relation from 10 months. he works in another city. even our only mode of contact is the cell phone and we dont get to speak for long due to lack of time and the worst part is that we havn't seen each other directly. and i'm dying to see him. :(
@misstoya (12)
• United States
20 Jan 09
It is sad but it can work...I have been in a long distance relationship for a while...though it has it's up and downs, mainly when we are missing each other...there are always phone calls, texts, IM. web cam and a lot of other means of communication...for a long distance relationship to work you just have to be willing to put in a little effort (both of you have to) and your partner is in another country...*it will be hard* but trust me it can work if the both of you want it too...good luck mama...
@piattos (13)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
I'd been in teh same situation as yours... we we're in d relationship for more than 3 years.. he went to the US when we were in our 6th month... imagine how long we'd been in that long distance relationship... It's really hard to get into it... love and trust must be always present to avoid conflicts etc... Im not discouraging you with your affair right now... but that is really hard.... Hope you two are really meant for each other..=) by d way.. have you heard about vonage? u just have to get an internet connection at home and connect it into the modem to get unlimited calls abroad specifically d US.. with that no worries about prepaid calling card expenses...=)
@lanina911 (103)
• United States
18 Jan 09
this is so sad and know exactly how you feel. Me and my ex- boyfriend broke up and when I moved we stop talking for a while. Then next thing you know I get a phone call from him. He tells me that he's dating my nest friend, yet he wants me to come back.