Do you like your bf/gf showers you with material things,or thoughful actions?

I am like you my dear brother... I LOVE THOUGHTFUL WAYS of saying and SHOWING the magic word LOVE! And gifts would be just an ICING on the cake while in fact the cake itself is really ENJOYABLE already with or witout the icing. That is how I view this. Hope we have that share of CAKE everytime from the ONLY GIRL we do LOVE! God bless us all and our loveones as well. NICE TOPIC AGAIN...and again...AND ALWAYS!

Love is definitely more important than material things...my boyfriend's love is the most important thing that he could give me and not any material things like stuff toy's or roses or things like that. Though, they are nice to receive, but all in all...love is the most important thing about it.

I also agree with you. It is the little things that my husband does that I apperciate. I am not all about material things. I would rather have time together, watch a movie and snuggle on the couch.

I rather my boyfriend show me he loves through his actions. Material things mean nothing to me. I like when he hugs me, kisses, me, holds me in public, holds my hand around his family and doesn't ignore me around his friends. I love him and I know he loves me through his words and his actions.

Hearing my fiance tell me I'm beautiful is worth more than all the flowers and candy in the world. But when he surprises me with little 'gifts' - even just coming home with my favorite dinner or bringing me a coffee at work - I always get that warm, fuzzy feeling too. I don't expect diamonds and gold, just little things to let me know he's thinking of me are great!

I much prefer the thoughts. I like to give things but getting them... don't get me wrong, I am not going to turn away gifts but I'd rather have my mister cook dinner for me or make a CD for me. I don't know if it's really a guy thing or just a guys-on-TV thing but it seems like whenever anything happens, good or bad, be it a fight or an anniversary, guys go right to the candy and dozen roses. I'd rather have the cash he spent on those things! No, really, I'd rather have something that shows he put a little bit of thought and effort into it....like a homemade CD or home cooked meal.

I enjoy just thoughtful actions from my fiance as well. Materialistic things are okay but can get old and worn out, thoughtful things never do.

I might seem as greedy.. but i'd gladly take both. Of course material things will make me happy and feel loved, but if that is without those thoughtful actions, it won't complete the "process" in my point of view. But if i were to choose between those 2. Yes i would choose thoughtful actions. No point having a partner that isn't there when you need him.

i am not really a materialistic person. being attach to someone, material things doesn't count at all. what matter's most in a relationship specially with the one you loved the most is the presence of her during the most awful times of your life. the fact that she accepted you no matter what you are and who you are is already the most wonderful thing that God given us.

hello n30wing! I would rather choose that my husband would shower me thoughtful actions than material things. What's the use of those gifts if he only gave without me feeling that he really meant it.

I agree with you. I would much rather have the thoughtful actions. I guess you could argue though that buying flowers is a thoughtful action as well as a material thing. But when it comes down to it give me a good back rub and a long slow kiss and I'm set for the night. :)