To join? Or not to Join?
By Chey1970
@Chey1970 (1186)
United States
January 20, 2009 4:16pm CST
Some of my online friends are already aware that during the Christmas break, I relocated. I absolutely love my new home. It was like finding my dream house. However, not knowing the area, I am reluctant to get out. Which also leads me to another dilemma, which is making friends here.
The real estate agent in which I had, when buying my house had suggested, joining the Country Club. Now those who know me, know the Country Club isn't me. I am a laid back type person who is comfortable in Jeans and T-shirt. So I brushed the thought aside. Recently while talking with my husband, he commented, about the Country Club again, and of course I retorted by saying, "Making friends at the Country Club, wouldn't be our type of friends". He disagreed.
What do you think? All thoughts welcome.
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4 responses
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Well...that is somewhat of a coin flip. On one hand, it is a good thing to join the Country Club, for networking. While, on the other hand, the Country Club is somewhat pricey, and are known for making things just look good for the rich.
If you are a laid back kind of person, then I would think, you would want to socialize with others who are like that. Most Country Club people are probably more social than a laid back type of personality. What I suggest is to try it out for the extended period of time, for however long that lasts and see if you like it. If you don't like it no harm done right?
Hope this helps
Luvandpower
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@Chey1970 (1186)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Hello luvandpower, thank you for your insight. I guess my way of thinking is along the same line as yours. I think Country Club, I think expensive, and rich people. Not sure if my outlook on life, things, etc. would match theirs. I received and invitation in the mail to it, and on Thursday nights it's 'Martini night'. That didn't excite me any. *LOL* I might go by and see if I can get pamphlets on all they have to offer.
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@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Yea, it kind of reminds me of what my mother always told me about vegetables. You won't know how they taste until you try it, so I advise you to at least go by and see what it is like...even though a martini about now would be nice.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Here I am, three years in Sacramento,haven't really made any friends here. But I have had some things suggested to me (that I haven't pursued yet):
1. join a club (not necessarily a country club, but something you have an interest in)
2. church
3. parents of children your children's age
4. take classes
5. get involved in some kind of activity
6. walk around and meet your neighbors
But I'm no kind of expert, that's for sure!
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@Chey1970 (1186)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I guess my problem is I am sorta of shy, and keep to myself until I get to know someone. Those were some great suggestions, thank you Dawn. I'm thinking come spring, I will be more opt to get out of the house and walk the neighborhood, they have a park, and a lake inside the neighborhood, where you can go feed the ducks. I might try that.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Aha that's my problem too...
VERY kind of shy...
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
I think that you should be open to possibilities. I mean you will never know unless you try right? So just give it a try. If it doesn't work out then you can always leave or just ignore your membership there.
@mrgavediger (73)
• United States
5 Mar 09
What the CC ..lol I hang at CC with the mayor and buds play golf and have a Blast;)I'm surfer and cliff climber and a firefighter don't join.... just hang ;)
