Becoming Me

United States
January 20, 2009 10:36pm CST
As I've gotten older, I find that I don't really know who I am and I'm unsure of how to discover that. I know what I like and what I dislike, but I don't feel that I am a defined person. It really takes away from my character and I'm afraid of loosing myself when I go to college since I already don't know who I am or even what I stand for. How does a person develop themselves? It has confused me for so long and it bothers me that I'm in a healthy relationship and don't know who I am. If I knew I could enjoy it so much more. Whenever I try to think about it I just come up with things I like or do not like. I know there's no sure way of becoming who you are, but I know I'm not there yet and that's sad since I'm a senior in high school soon to go to college. I feel like I can't go because I'll drown in my insecurities. I know that if I knew myself, I would be much more confident and would be able to reach my full potential as opposed to being the blob of nothing that I am. I feel like I have no substance.
1 response
• United States
21 Jan 09
I think this is a common thought for a lot of people. It can take a lifetime to truly know yourself, the things you do know now though, are a good start. You are one of those points where we question ourselves the most; transition. A lot of people claim to have truly find more of themselves in college. Perhaps you will be with those, look forward to your upcoming transition. Scout out colleges, figure out how far you want to travel. You don't have to decide a major right aay, so do not even worry about that. A lot of people say college is an experience like no other. Until then, look for things that interest you to get into. I got heavily into philosophy and psychology and felt it helped find myself more.
• United States
21 Jan 09
Thanks a lot. That was helpful, I genuinely thought I was lacking because I was unsure of who I was. Most people seem to have it all figured out.
• United States
21 Jan 09
I think most people just like to pretend that they have it all figured out. If you act confident, others see you as such.