So you are pregnant get over it

Australia
January 20, 2009 10:59pm CST
A lady said it to me yesterday and I was very hurt. I will explain. My friend's husband had his name day yesterday and we went over there. There was a lot of people there and after some time all the women went out and I was left in the room with all the men so I got up and went to sit with them. As they were all smoking and it was a closed up area, I got a chair and sat at the end of the table away from the smoke (I am ex smoker but gave up when I got pregnant and smoke makes me sick). I didnt complain or say anything until this lady got up and stood over me with her smoke and blew at me wich made me sick and I waved the smoke away from me at which she said "so you are pregnant get over it". Do you think I did something wrong? Is it wrong to protect my self and my unborn baby? Do you think this was mean and uncaaled for?
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@manny025 (73)
• United States
21 Jan 09
lol hehe dis is funny
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
Do you mind sharing what is so funny?????
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Yes, I think that is very rude and very uncalled for. Did you say anything back to her? I think I would have told her that I was taking care of my unborn child and I didn't feel like she should get offended because I wanted to. That's just crazy that someone would be so inconciderate of someone else. There are a lot of rude people in the world.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
No I didnt say anything because everyone looked at both of us like I was over reacting (only if they knew how much I still throw up and that I am hardly eating)
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I'd have doused her in gas & lit it "So your on FIRE...get over it"
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@uath13 (8192)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I'm sorry, I have a bad habit of hopeing people get what they deserve.
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
hahaha thanks for that you made my day
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
21 Jan 09
That is just to funny. Great advice, but I don't think that is the way to go but it was very funny. Happy Mylotting
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Yes this was definitely mean and uncalled not to mention down right rude! People never cease to amaze me. Rest assured you did nothing wrong and have ever right to want to protect your unborn baby and yourself. Well done you for quitting. I stopped smoking during both my pregnancies and for some stupid reason took it up again as well. I am thinking that one day soon I will stop though. As a mother I should really protect my health, I just really like it so much! All about will power though and soon I will have it. Best of luck to you and your baby
• Australia
21 Jan 09
I felt so bad when she said this infront of 12 or so other people so that I hardly know. I dont plan to start smoking again as I have seen the benefits of not smoking this has been the longest without a smoke I have managed and every day I hate them more and more.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
yes I bet it would have been uncomfortable. Well done on the quitting it really is great, you should be so proud of yourself. Part of me thinks I should fall pregnant again as it was so easy to quit with a baby inside me!
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
hahaha well go for it you will benefit twice 1 you will have another child 2 you will quit smoking I dont see anything bad in any of them.
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• United States
21 Jan 09
You should of not even been in the same room with people smoking. Sitting at the end of the table will still do damage to your baby. This lets you know how your husband and his friends feel about you since they saw you and did not bother to stop smoking around you.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
You got it wrong my dear. My husband is not involved at all in fact he does not smoke as well. This was an outside area with the wind blowing away from me so where I was siting there was no smoke. and as I said it was all women company.
• United States
22 Jan 09
Even with wind and being outside, you still shouldn't be around them. I am glad I got it wrong about your husband and his friends. You might want to inform your husband what a monster his friend is married to. His friend might not even realize how mean she is.
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@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Hi, that soman was rude to blow smoke at you. I would not go over there again and protecting yourself and unborn baby would be only right for both of your health, It was just rude what she said.She might be jealous but it was still uncalled for.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
She wasnt the hostes she was a guess so there is no reason to punish the people having the get together.
• Australia
23 Jan 09
As I said why would I not go to my friends house when she did nothing wrong by me its a guest that was there that said and did this. My friend had nothing to do with it so by stop going there I would be punishing her
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
23 Jan 09
who said anything about punishing people?I said that guest was rude and maybe she might have been jealous and it was good you were looking out for for your health of yourself and unborn baby and I "myself" would not go over there again
@mansha (6298)
• India
21 Jan 09
People can be so hurtful at times. It was a mean thing to say, may be shje was jealous. When I was pregnant with my second one, a daughter, a friend of his came to visit us. I had got married at twenty but due to some medical problems concieved quite late. I was 36 whne I was due for my second one. This lady comes up to me and asks my hubby what has made him go for a child at such an old age. I felt so bad. I refused to entertain her after that at all. Till date I have not spoken to the couple as yet. People are just ignorant and fools and make remarks out of context and with no knowledge of circumstances. Do not take it to hart and just avoid such company till you have your baby in your arms. Infact as far as I know, pregnancy is the time to pamper yourself and passive smoke is much more dangerous to you and your baby. Take care and focus on good things dear, best of luck.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
25 Jan 09
I say you just leave it as to each his own and just move on and enjoy your pregnancy.
• Australia
22 Jan 09
Oh dear that would have been bad. I dont get it it looks like this one is jealous as well and it looks like she has been thinking a lot and just had the oportunity to say it when she did.
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
21 Jan 09
No, you did not do anything wrong at all. What that lady did and said was uncalled for and rude. I would have had something rude to say back to her, but that is just me.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
Like I could talk back right now anything makes me cry :)))) I would have looked like an idiot
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Ah yes, the pregnancy hormones. They did a number on me too when I was pregnant with my kids.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Some people just don't have concern for others. Of course it was rude. And she was wrong. I wouldn't give it any more thought if I were you. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. 6 weeks ago I had a baby boy. I would have waved the smoke away as well. You did the right thing.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
Congratulations on your boy it looks like you have 1 of each my son wont even hear of me having a boy he wants a baby sister.
• United States
21 Jan 09
I do not think that you are in the wrong at all. I am a smoker but I respect the fact that all people do not smoke. I Mhave a friend that has 5 kids and she does not smoke and when her kids are around even if they are at my house I will go outside and smoke. You are only protecting your health and your babies health. If I would have bben around I would not even have smoked around you. That is uncalled for for someone to get affended by you waving the smoke out of your face. And it was very rude of her to say so you are pregnant get over it. I do not think that you are in the wrong here just know that you did what was right for you and your baby. Have a blessed day.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
I did smoke before so I dont feel right to say to anyone not to smoke infront of me, and I did everything that I could to remove my self from the situation what she did was on purpose as there was no need for her to do what she did.
@toosh21 (800)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Oh this woman is totally in the wrong - how rude! You are not wrong in trying to protect yourself and your unborn child! I did the same thing while pregnant with both my children - and I still keep them and myself away from it now.
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
As a parent I do what I can to protect my kids but even if it was perfecly safe and ok I have said it millions of times that smoke makes me sick
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Hello, I honestly don't see where you did anything wrong. I have to say that you did the right thing by quitting smoking when you got pregnant. I did the same when I got pregnant because I figure that this way the baby will be totally 100% healthy. I have to say that what the lady did was way beyond mean that was just wrong for to say and do that. I think you should have said something and then got up and told your hubby that you wanted to leave. Because there was no need for that and they should have respected the fact that you were at one end of the table for a reason. Well I hope that things are better for you now. Happy Mylotting
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
Thanks for that I have been thinking all day about it. Of all the women there non of them think its that bad to smoke while pregnant as they all say "I did it and there is nothing wrong with my kids" that may be so but why risk it. And anyway in my case (where I am sick most days) its not worth smoking and brings me no pleasure. None of the ladies there said anything about what this lady said to me but the conversation turned into "I smoked 2 packs a day with all 3 kids" and "you only have to wait 3 more months to start again" in other words yes we agree get over it
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I will say that yes there may be nothing wrong with their children right now but you never know what could happen in the future. Some moms are lucky to have nothing happen to their children when they smoke and some are not so lucky. But they should have respected your choice of doing what you feel is safe for your new baby to be. Your welcome on the response. Happy Mylotting
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• Canada
21 Jan 09
Wow..what a f!*%ing b!tch.No you didn't do anything wrong,you are all ready a great mom to that unborn child for quiting and protecting you baby and yourself.I say this woman must be a misserable person.Don't worry!
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
I am staring to think that as well (that she is a misserable person) there is no other explanation for it
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
21 Jan 09
Dear,please be calm and keep a good mood ,you know you are a pregnancy.you have no need to pay more attention to that lady's words.As long as you know what you did.As you said you only wanted to protect yourself and your unborn baby.you did nothing wrong. when you get sick ,you will realize that how happy a good health is.maybe that lady hadn't realized it.For her words care nothing. happy every moment.
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
Just because I am pregnant I am thinking too much of it as they say hormons. I avoid going out and visiting people just because of this. Its their right to smoke but that makes me sick and I dont want to say things.
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@Tinna_He (300)
• China
21 Jan 09
From your words,it seems your mood is still bad. To be pregnant will think much more.Last year i also thought much things and my mood changed rapidly.The most thing which i did did the cross-stitch embroidery.it make me calm.If can,you can find something to do and disperse your mind.
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• Canada
21 Jan 09
I sure do I mean who does she think she is!?!? Honestly! Some people just seem to be mean spirited in my opinion! ~Heavens~
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
I honestly dont know what her problem was it seems that it wasnt even related to my action
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
21 Jan 09
This lady has no class at all. I don't blame you at all for not wanting smoke around you! I guess I am a bit surprised that you went into the room where they were smoking. I would have stayed in an area that I didn't have to breath in that smoke,
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
The room in question is an outdoor area that is under cover with mesh on the sides so no bugs come in. All the women went there I was left on my own with all the men talking politics after about 15 min no one came so I decided to go there knowing that there was good ventilation.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
22 Jan 09
First off it wasn't like you were sitting there complaining about the smoke. What was extremely rude IMO was that she came and stood over you and blew the smoke at you. She could have been respectful and blew it in another direction and distanced herself from you. Her comment was entirely uncalled for and I think we'll have to just do what utah said because I think she deserves that. I hate when people act like that. I'm sorry that you had to go through that situation but I have to think that this lady is somewhat jealous of you being pregnant.
• Australia
22 Jan 09
I am still thinking why she got up and I dont see areason for that. I was siting with no one close by, there was nothing for her to see by getting up and why that space I have no idea. If she is jealous she can do what she did the first 3 times.
@kezabelle (2974)
21 Jan 09
She was jusr rude, no need to purposefully smoke infront of anyone pregnant or not but for me keeping away from smoke was very important when i was pregnant and id have no problems telling someone to blow their smoke else where they can poision their own lungs all they like but at least let me decide if i do it to my own or my babies!
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• Australia
22 Jan 09
The thing is I never even said a word to anyone. I removed my self from the smokes way I didnt tell anyone to stop infront of me, she made a big deal over nothing
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
she was mean. maybe she does not understand that you are only protecting your baby's health. that is so sad. i can't believe that somebody is as mean as that. a very unloving person.
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• Australia
21 Jan 09
Well if she does not understand than she needs a hear check. Its ok if they think its fine to smoke its their body and kids but I am responcible for my body and baby. It is discusting the way she acted as if it was totaly out of line what I did. my husband sais maybe she is jelous to which I said well if she is she should go lie down with her husband and get to work
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@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
22 Jan 09
Wow I think she was very mean and that it was definately uncalled for. Even if you weren't pregnant I don't think she should have blown smoke in your face. First of all you weren't complaining about it and you didn't do anything to deserve being treated that way. I am not pregnant and I can honestly tell you that if anyone blew smoke in my face, I would let them have it. She was being just plain rude and I am very dissapointed that no one stood up for you. It makes me wonder if you should be hanging out with these people at all. I am sorry that she was so mean to you, no one deserves to be treated like that.
• Australia
23 Jan 09
I didnt have a choice as this was not a close friends gathering thing it was just random people that I see from time to time and all we have in common is the friend that we were all visiting.