feeling alone in a marriage
By stargirl85
@stargirl85 (218)
United States
January 21, 2009 1:02am CST
Lately I have felt so alone but smothered all at the same time. I find myself to be under alot of stress and not very happy. My husband let two good friends move in with us which seems to have been a big mistake. I love our friends but I find this situation to be bad. They dont pay us for gas to take her to work or help with groceries. With two extra people in the house the groceries are gone as soon as I buy them. I am having the hardest time getting any sleep anymore because they decide everything. The guys play video games all night and she complains about the noise of tv bothering her. I seem to be in the way just by exsisting. Alot of times im told not to speak and dont understand why.
1 response
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
22 Jan 09
Those are not friends they are freeloaders and in keeping with freeloader philosophy they are truly inconsiderate .I don’t consider them to be friends because friends would have thought that since they were there not paying rent ,the least they could do would be to help with the bills. Also they would be as conservative as best and not consume your food at such a rapid rate .As a matter of fact they would buy their own food .
Next they would try not to inconvenience you by playing video games and their tv so loud .And why is she so "picky " in your house ,you should be the one complaining .
You will definitely have to talk to your husband about the situation because stress and insomnia is a recipe for mental problems. You need to tell your husband that if he doesn’t talk to them you are and give him time to talk to them because you wouldn’t want this to escalate into a problem in your marriage nor do you want to embarrass him by going behind his back. If this doesn’t work you may try to appeal to his girlfriend (I am assuming that she is ) and hope that there is still enough some logical reasoning ability left in her .Alternatively you may have to sit both of them down and talk to them at the same time but try her first on a woman to woman level
