Problems with being the MIDDLE child
By JonesKnows
@JonesKnows (73)
Canada
January 21, 2009 12:36pm CST
If your a middle child like me you already know the problems that position in the family can bring. I'm going to name just a few. Feel free to add your own experiences.
I had the honor of growing up known as the "problem child". The reason I think I was considered to be the one causing trouble was BECAUSE I was the middle child.
For instance, if my brother two years older than me was in a bad mood, or just angry about something, or just wanted to fight, he would go at me, because if he went at our little brother four years younger than him, he would likely hurt him and get into trouble for picking on Mom and Dads "baby". Likewise if my little brother was in a similar bad mood he wouldn't go at our older brother, hes not stupid and knows he wouldn't stand a chance against him, so logically he would go at me too. So I ask, was it any wonder I was always involved in the arguments, fights and disagreements?
Another reason being the middle child was tough was because of privileges and favoritism. My older brother would get all the privileges of being the older son, and my little brother would get all the special treatment given to most babies of the family. Once again leaving me without any special privileges or special attention.
What about you? Were you a middle child in your family, and how did you like it?
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5 responses
@JonesKnows (73)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
A good point! Is it worse beings the middle child, or to have no brothers or sisters at all?
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I am the middle child, the elder daughter. And I'm 2 yrs younger than my brother and 4 years older than my sister.
However, while I had problems, there were more because after we moved just a few months before my 10th birthday I was in a neighborhood where there was only one gal close to my age and she hated me because I was a year younger and a grade ahead of her. (I was in the grade she should've been in and she was in the one I should've been in.)
Then there were girls my sister's age and boys my brother's but NO ONE about my age besides her.
I finally made a few friends with some girls a couple of grades behind me, one was another horsie gal and the other was a friend of hers and another friend.
Also, I had trouble making friends, I was depressed and very introverted.
Having said all that, I was considered the good girl, compared to my brother. I mean, how could I get in trouble? I was in my room with a puzzle or a book. And when I wasn't, I was probably horseback riding....
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
hi jonesknows,
I am also in the middle child and like you i also experience like that but as i grow up i feel that i am lucky to be in the middle for i have older sister will always be there to help me and support me everytime i needed them, a younger brother that i can always ask favor to do something for me. I feel blessed about it for i feel i am not pressure at all, less expectation for my parents and less responsibilities unlike being the oldest or the youngest. Think of the brighter side of it. Happy mylotting.
