Who will you choose to be with for? The one who loves you or the one you love?

Philippines
January 22, 2009 2:54am CST
Hi mylotters. Are are your thoughts about choosing whom to stay with for life. The one you loves you but you don't love him or her. Or the one you love who does not love you? why?
5 responses
@redberry (178)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
I've been asked that very same question a lot and my answer is always the same. I would choose "the one who loves me but don't love him". Why!?! it is simple love always change, I will learn to love the person who loves me. I think that the more time you spend with that person, the more will you get to know him better, from there love will always follow. Whereas, if you choose the person whom you love but doesn't love you. It will only hurt you and you may also end up being a slave of that love. One sided love is something I can't endure.
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
What you mean is that you are opening your heart for the person who loves you so that you will love him back someday. Thanks for the response.
• India
22 Jan 09
My friend redberry when you will not love the person who love you than is in it one sided and u said that u will learn love from the person that love u and u don't love him/her. But in the case of peson whom u love and he/she don't love you than you can also change her/him to being in love with u by ur love. I think that i have confused you by love but i only know one sentance love for love and war for war.
@redberry (178)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
yes angiesg, that's exactly what I mean... when I said "one side love", what I meant was on my point of view, not the other...
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
i've heard a phrase of people saying be with the one who loves you and not the one you love. it's okay to just say it but i can't imagine being with someone who you don't love knowing he or she loves you deeply. i think there's no chemistry between both parties. there's no pure affection in the relationship and maybe it won't last that long.
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
But maybe if one opens her/his heart and mind, he/she may learn to love that person who loves him/her in due time. Thanks and regards.
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
yeah, that's true too. it's my pleasure angiesg.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Hello angiesg! I would choose the one who loves me. I am the person who easily fall in love especially if I know if the person cares for me and love me unconditionally. But thank God that when I found my husband, we mutually love each other.
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Great! I wish you both more love. Thanks.
• India
22 Jan 09
"All our lives we search for someone who makes us complete.We choose partners and change partners.We dance the song of heartbreak and hope all the while,wondering if somewhere,somehow there is someone searching for us." I searched for my love...I didnot get it at all. A person now loves me..I also love the person a lot...so i chose to go with the one who loves me and not the one I loved. Regards
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Good thing, you love each other now. Keep it up! Thanks.
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
if i can only choose both. In a relationship it would be mutual. But since you are giving me choices i would rather go with the one who loves me whom i don't love. I believe i am a soft person i can easily be fall in love when somesone shows genuine love and care. Maybe at first i would have a hard time to love him but eventually i will be develop to him. There's no constant in this world and i am sure even my feelings will change too. As long as he loves me and be there for me whenever i need them that would be enough.