Extra marital affairs
January 22, 2009 5:30am CST
how many of you think that it is ok to have a affair after marriage, i belive its ok but my wife doesn't think so. she alway get angry whenever she know about my affairs. but i can't control my emotions towards the girls.come buddys tell me how many of you can handle this type of situations.
22 Jan 09
That is a very difficult situation to handle for you and much more difficult for your wife! If she has been very loyal to you, she probably feels betrayed. She might see you as an unfaithful husband because you had vows on your marriage. I want to hear your thoughts. Why do you think it is okay?
22 Jan 09
Come on dear, why are you not think that its ok, i have a lots of desirs and i think that it is not fullfil by my wife, but i love her alot, i do everything for her, i want to be with her always it's very true that i can't live without her. but my friend what will i do if i want to have other girls also, i am not going to spend my whole life with other girls. i just spend some good time with other. so what is the problem to spend some time with other girls will you tell me.
• United States
27 Jan 09
so do you love your wife?? Because if you DID and she's not in agreement with you going outside the marriage you wouldnt do it! I'm sorry but I think what you are doign is wrong and cruel really...You know it upsets her, hurts her etc but you do it anyway...and saying that you "cant control" you emotions towards other girls is such a load of B.S - its nto that you can't...its that you dont want to and you know you can get away with it... I'm all for open marriages when its agreed upon by both ppl (I'm in such a marriage) but when its one sided thats just wrong.
22 Jan 09
I remember an article that I've read regarding adultery or being unfaithful. When you get married, you choose to love the person forever. Most of the qualities you've been looking for a partner is 80-90% you've seen in your present partner, however 10-20% is still missing. So you focus on the missing one, leading to looking for another person who will fulfill that missing one, and you forget that 80-90% of the qualities in your present partner. What I'm trying you to understand is that you should focus on what you have right now, rather than looking at the missing one that could fulfill it. On the other way around, it will be also okay for you if your wife is fooling also with other guys?