i really need help and opinions,

January 22, 2009 7:41am CST
right i have a girlfriend and ive been with her for nearly a year now, and i love her more then any person on the planet but she keeps breaking my heart, and doing things that are horrible stuck up selfish and hurt me so much its unexplainable. i always give her chances and more and more chances, what do i do now?? she is not changing like she said she would, can i have opinions please?
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@MythiliK (141)
• Switzerland
22 Jan 09
Love should be unconditional. When you expect something,it is like business. Since you invested (Love), you need something back. When you don't expect anything, nothing can hurt you. Hey, if you want, have a look at here. I just told a lot about Love and Not Love. You can differentiate Love and other feelings. Good Luck. http://mythilishiju.blogspot.com
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@mglend (8)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 09
I would say your girlfriend's attitude is really bad, so she must be pretty if you can't get off her :) Usually woman are open to critics, but if in any way you can't change her, then you must ask yourself a question, would you be with someone who can't make you happy, for the rest of your life? And the decision is truly yours.
• Canada
22 Jan 09
YOu should never expect or ask someone to change who they are!!! IF she doesnt realize what she is doing is very hurtful towards you and you have told her then its her lose.. But you cannot change anyone.~!
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@rieru08 (73)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
First thing you need to do is to assess yourself. Was it just the year that you kept lingering? Do you love her more than you love yourself? Think again. You should have left ample love for yourself. If you kept on giving her chances, she would just abuse it. Everyone deserves to be happy. You deserve to. Give yourself a chance to be happy. I know its have to let go, but it takes an effort. Save yourself from the pain. Maybe you deserve someone better. Love is always a learning process. With love, we learn to care and sacrifice. We learn to be unselfish and give all that we can. And when everything does not end well, we learn how it feels to fall and get hurt. BUT, LEARNING DOES NOT HAVE TO END THERE. Its true that there is life in love, but there can also be life after losing love. http://rielity.com/2008/09/love-let-go-learn.html
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I think she is going to keep abusing you as long as you are willing to let her. She apparently is not going to change, so you have to decide for yourself if you love her other qualities enough to put up with this continual heartbreak. This relationship is one-sided, and you are both in love with the same person--her! Love isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship, there's also a thing called "respect for one another's feelings." She apparently has none for yours. Get out, dumb*ss. You deserve better.
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@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
27 Jan 09
break up and move on. if u r not happy, u shouldnt be in the relationship. a healthy relationship is when 2 people feel the same about each other. if one doesnt, it is not a relationship.
• Canada
23 Jan 09
Welcome to mylot, tom. I definitely understand your feelings. I've come to learn and believe that you really do teach people how to treat you. If you allow her to continue breaking your heart, doing those things that are hurting you so much, and you keep giving her more "chances," you're just going to own the pain. She said she'd change but she hasn't... and, you know, I'm sure she won't. If you've been with her for a year and you've repeatedly pointed out to her the behaviors and situations that hurt you and she continues to do those things, it would seem that that is her personality. I guess you could decide to live with the pain she causes you but that doesn't seem true to yourself. Everyone deserves to be happy and she may not be the right person for you. It's hard to end a relationship but it's harder to stay in one where you're miserable. I wish you much luck.