Would you change your look for someone else?

Canada
January 22, 2009 11:08pm CST
Hi there, Would you change your appearance for someone else,your partner,lover,friend?I mean if you partner said he wanted you to change your hair color,would you?even if you don't think it would look good.My friend just dye her hair bleach blonde for her boyfriend cause he like blonde better than brunette and i think that was a silly thing to do,she's only been with the guy for a couples of month and i belive that's it shouldn't matter what color her hair is if he like her it should be for her.Anyway....what do you think,would you change something about yourself for someone else?
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• Singapore
23 Jan 09
I would not change my looks for someone else. But if it is something I want changed and he wants it too, then maybe he should pay for it. Before I got pregnant, my hubby has been telling me that he doesn't like his wife to grow fat after giving birth. I said I don't know if that might happen to me. But if that happens, I asked whether he would sponsor a slimming programme for me, and he said yes. I have given birth to a child. Although my body is not what it used to look like, my hubby has accepted me. He remembered the promise he made. He said that luckily I managed to slim down, and not stay fat after the pregnancy. But I guess it's up to each individual. If they are willing, what can we say?
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• Canada
23 Jan 09
That's what i say,i would change something if i thought it was also for me or if i also belive it would look good but there no way i would change if i don't want to just because i am being told!!Thank's and have a nice day.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Nope. They either love me for who I am or they move on. I also don't dress to suit anyone but myself. I'm not one to be in the latest style or in high heels. Shorts, tshirts, jeans and my crocs are my usual attire. If anyone else doesn't like it thats their problem - not mine.
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• Canada
23 Jan 09
That's how i am as well,i look the way i want to please me.i also want my husband to find me attractive but not if you ask for something crazy.i'm also very simple too with the way i dress and couldn't care less what enyone think....thank's and have a good day.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Isabella, yes, oh boy did I ever change the way I looked for someone. It wasn't just my looks, it was my personality and everything that went with it. I was Catholic, nothing wrong with that. I met my last husband who convinced me to go with him to the "church" he attended. The next four years was a change...so much my own family didn't want to really deal with me. Because his religion thought they were "it", my family had to deal with my "holier-than-thou" attitude. I couldn't cut my hair so at the end, it was all the way down to my waist. I couldn't shave...anything. (How's that for a visual?) Also, I wasn't able to wear clothing that showed my arms, legs or chest. Really, I had to wear closed toed shoes. Then, I couldn't wear makeup or earrings. Why? Because the "religion" was convinced that it was against the Bible. Sorry, forgot, I couldn't eat certain foods. Now that I'm not with him anymore, I'm back to being my normal self...whatever that is. After so many years of being brainwashed, it's hard to tell which end is up. *Pleiades
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• Canada
23 Jan 09
Wow.It must of have been difficult for for you to get "yourself"back.I sorry to know tou were so missarable for so many years....be glad it's over and don't worry about being "normal"i don't think none of us know what it mean anymore! have a nice day.
@cocooreo (706)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
I will not change the color of my hair if it is not of my liking. Even my boyfriend ask me to, I also will not change it. As my boyfriend, I hope that he loves the way I look, that is what I really am. Changing is not permanent as soon after that the natural color of the hair will be back again.
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• Canada
23 Jan 09
Well i kind of feel the same way.I wouldn't do something i'm not comfortable with in the first place so if changing my hair is something i don't want to do, i won't! Thank's and have a good nite.
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@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 09
Hi there isabella123, Well, May be he don't love her, then..Some sign sometimes we missed because we really want to make the relationship works. I don't listen to people about style and hair cut. Wen i decided to change so i change it for my self. I called it : Transformation or regenerate LOL Happy posting dear, oxox'dian from bali island.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Under the circumstances he met you with the color he wishes you to have. On the other hand do you know if that is why he wants it that color? Or is there another reason. Maybe he just likes the color you had it the most. It's so hard to say what others are or were thinking when wanting somehting. Do you remind him of another in this color? Maybe not probably not. If you want the answer ask him why he likes that color. If you wanted your hair a certain color or back to your color then you could have told him, I'll do it that color again sometime. I'd like this one for now. I wouldn't compromise what I want for anyone else. When you start doing these types of things they want they want more and more. If you keep doing what another wants and not what you want. Be yourself never let someone tell you what to do with you or how t be. That channges you and you will come to resent the things and the person asking for them. Some people say well small things don't matter! But they do! They do very much. Be and do what you want to yourself. If you wish to accomodate the other person once in awhile that's okay. If you are okay with it at the time.
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@subhakars (934)
• India
23 Jan 09
well it depends if the change is good. if he just wants to change for the heck of it then i wont but if it really suits me also then i will give it a try. but first i will try to reason with him on why the change is wanted.
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@ds6413 (2074)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Hi isabella123, about changing myself for a b/f! No because I have lived long enough to realise if my b/f doesn't like me the way I am then I am with the wrong person. If I wanted to experment and my b/f liked the end results and I didnt I still wouldn't keep it but if I liked it I would keep it for awhile.
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@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
hello isabella123, I don't think so. If he/she really loves me then she/he will accept everything in me including my physical look. I will not change any thing if he/she tells me so for this is the way I am since I was born. It's different if myself decided to make a change. At least I'm not force to do it unlike the other way around. In case I need a change it would come from me and myself alone and not to other people.
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@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
I would do something to change my appearance for someone else if I also like it and I also feel good at it. Sometimes you may think that you don't like it but if you have tried it already, you'll feel good at it so I accept ideas, ideas that I haven't tried before. For example, my husband told me to put on bangs. I haven't put on bangs ever before because I thought it won't look good at me, but when I went to the parlor and cut my hair short and put bangs on, it was good and I felt good seeing my face with a new hairdo. My husband also is the same, when I say try wearing this or that, he won't do it if he doesn't like but will try it once. Just trying once makes me feel important to him. So I show him the same way because I know how it feels to be appreciated when someone tries out your ideas.
@dmrone (750)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Hi Isabella. I have changed my hair color for my husband. When he met me it was not the original color, and he liked the color i had dyed it. Later as the color came out, he told me how much he had liked the other color, so i dyed it the color he liked.
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@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
23 Jan 09
Well, I'm not a woman, but, yes, if they really like it that way. I mean, are we not out to please the people we like ? Nothing wrong with this. My sister hates my crumply old hat I wear when it rains. My doctor told me it looks washy. Now I'm trying not to wear it. I used to love it but these loving people in my life have turned me off it. So what's wrong with this ?
• Canada
23 Jan 09
Yes i'm here to please my man too,if it's suggesting somet hing new that's ok but don't be TELLING me! Have a nice day.
• India
23 Jan 09
i would defnetly do it for my girl friend.i will change myself for her.i will like to change my apperarnce
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
(Cherry) Your so sweet! I love a guy that has the initiative to change for their girl though sometimes its against their will! Hehe! Have a nice day! =)
@goldeneagle (6774)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I would not..either you like me...or you don't...
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I will not. For me, theres no reason for changing how I looks for me to be love by someone. I belive that this is the way how God wants me to be and this is how he created me so definitely, I should be contented and be proud of how I looks. I want them to love me of who and what I am. Because this is the real me. If they willno be loving me because I looks like this, then its not my problem. Its not my loss. I am so sorry for those who wants to change everything in them just to please someone or just to have that person love them. Be contented on what you are! If theres no one who loves you because of the way you looks, don't fell bothered. Because God loves you and that is the greatest love that we need.
• China
24 Jan 09
Well,I won't change my appearance for anyone else,since I think if he likes me,he likes the real me.If I change myself,it may make me feel that I was another person,that's not meanful.
• India
24 Jan 09
well i would like to change my looks for my loved ones to make them feel happy.......but not for everyone only to someone who is something special in my life i will definetly change my looks
@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
24 Jan 09
No absolutely never! I don't even wear makeup! I believe in appearing as you do naturally and to change it is just wrong to me. To change it for someone else is even more wrong! If someone can't like/love you for exactly who YOU are, they aren't a true friend/lover. There is no reason a person should have to change who they are for anyone!
• United States
24 Jan 09
Oh now come one! I would! What the heck? Live a little. You might like it after you try it! I've changed my hair color, hair length, eye shadow...lol. I guess I needed a lot of work! Now, I feel great about myself and I love my new look! Sometimes it can be fun to play dress up too! Wink! meow & ciao!
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
23 Jan 09
no i would not but people do it.i see it all the time the way people copy of the tv stars and friends want to be like other friends that can be a good thing are bad thing.some people change for the wrong reason.