Is it hard to please everybody?

@msedge (4012)
United States
January 23, 2009 1:29am CST
No matter how hard you try, no matter how many hours you spend pondering and planning, and regardless of how hard you try, you absolutely cannot please everyone. It is impossible. So do yourself a favor and stop now, before you drive yourself farther toward insanity. There are many drawbacks to being a people-pleaser. A big one is that you often put yourself in a position of subservience. Sometimes you even put yourself last, which helps no one. Remember that helping yourself and doing what you feel is important should be valued. Find worth in your own opinions and viewpoint, and don't let your desire to please others compel you to keep yourself in the background. Falling short of perfection only proves that you are a normal human being.
19 responses
• Italy
23 Jan 09
It's very hard and luckly it's not necessary! I think that the most important thing is to be honest with other people not to please them at any cost.
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@thaMARKER (2559)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
For me yes it is specially if it is serious. I used to be independet when it comes to dealing with people I don't know, well even with friends. I can only please one person easily, my sister. She's always been there for me. If she can't be please, she'll find a way for me. I seldom please my family (aside from my sister) because I wanted to be independent from my parents most specially..
@jimmysun (401)
• China
24 Jan 09
yes, you are right...it's hard to please all the people even if you've tried to...all the human beings have their own hobbies, own character and own thought. we ourselves also can not change to another one and so can not cater to everybody. instead of this, just being ourselves and let other people please us
@vikeyshuy (284)
• China
24 Jan 09
i can't agree with you more.you are right.if we just try to please everybody,we have to give up some qualities of ourselves,and life will seems hard for us.
• United States
24 Jan 09
I'm guilty of trying to this all the time and, all the time I find myself being in the line of fire of people who are not pleased with me. It seems like no matter how hard I try, it makes things worse with certain people. So, I don't bother with that anymore. Now, I work just as hard trying to please MYSELF the same way I used to try doing that with everyone else.
@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Thank you for the reminder, no one is able to please everyone all the time. For me it is hard to please everybody, I am going to try to please me today
@jsgomes (78)
• India
23 Jan 09
Well even God could not. So.... forget it. Even if you manage to please most in the end it is you who will land up unhappy. So never try it. Just be true.
@muru1950 (964)
• India
23 Jan 09
Hi msedge You are very correct about pleasing every one. I used to be a Yes man always. I wanted every one around me to be happy. Now I have realized that even in home I can't please everyone. But because it is my character to please everyone,ultimately I found myself with all the tensions and worries in life. Even now if I can change my character and live as per my conscience,I will find some peace and happiness in my life. Your discussion on this topic is an eye opener to me. I will try to change myself. Happy mylotting.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I know how that is. You do as much as you can but still can't manage to do everything. Instead of someone at least praising you for what you did do they go off on you about what you didn't do.
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
well uhm im not trying to please everybody, cuz if you do then it will be hard for you. Just be yourself all the time, then if they dont like what they see then thats fine, as long that you know that you are a good person, decent and God-fearing then its their lost if they dont like you. We dont need to please everybody as if you are really hungry for attention , and love. ^-^
• United States
23 Jan 09
This is something I often struggle with. I often find myself being used because I have a hard time saying no. Sadly it is my mom who makes it hardest for me. I have gotten better over the years and work hard to make sure that I keep everything in priority including making sure I get what I need.
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
hi msedge tell me about it ... i can never please my inlaws .. they are too perfect for me .. if you saw 1 of my discussion you can see that i bought them gift and they dare to return it to me claiming that it is not their preference choice the actual word was they wanted to come with me to the shop and change it .. i guess till the end of my life i will still be imperfect choice for their son/brother cheers
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
23 Jan 09
This would be a really good slogan to make as huge as possible for the walls in all schools around the country and world. No matter how hard I try a few of my grandchildren are followers and people pleasers. It's a certain person they follow and want to please. It's not good and gets one into trouble so much for this as he takes up for the other one all of the time and will do whatever the other says to do. I completely agree with this. As I tried for years trying to please everyone in the family I was the mediator and it caused me to be the one that got the rough end of things everytime. I put myself last and most time not at all. I did learn after too many years that it's my turn now. So the kids needs to learn early this quote in kindergarden and the early years. I think I'll see what I can do about this if you don't mind being quoted. Okay?
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I strongly agree! Why live to please them? After all, the end goal of human existence is happiness. you won't be happy if you worry about what they have to say.
• United States
23 Jan 09
Yes its very hard to please everyone and its not possible. Im at a point in my life where everyone tells me what they want. Im finally starting to realize that I cant please them and need to learn to make me happy. Its important to get away sometimes to yourself so you dont go crazy.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
23 Jan 09
No sense in trying to please everyone. Please yourself and you have accomplished something good. Try to please everyone and fail and you have done something not good
@syang0901 (120)
• China
23 Jan 09
It's really ture that you can't please everybody. I used to try to please everybody in my company, but I felt so tired that I quit the job finally. Today I don't need to please others. If I feel I live meaningful, It's enough.
@chris20 (109)
• Philippines
23 Jan 09
you're absolutely right. it's a very stupid act to make yourself as your last priority in life then so hard knowing that at the end, you'll still lost everything despite of your sacrifices.
@stormy09 (438)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Jan 09
Hello msedge, you are absolutely correct and thanks for that you made me realize one thing... Thanks...