Kids get on my nerve (my husband kids)

First of all, if the mothers don't want them, why has your husband not taken them to move in with you permanently? It is never easy to bring children into the house for only a weekend here and there. I do know and feel your frustrations. Try longer time outs in places that are not fun. A chair in the corner, a time out at the table with nothing but the wall to stare at, and separation from each other worked for us. Without anything to watch or anyone to talk to, suddenly it's boring! Also, try and put yourself in their shoes. If their mothers are not involved in their life, and Dad is only there on the weekends, it may be just a call for attention. Getting into trouble and being punished is better than no attention at all. Hang in there, stick to your rules and keep those time outs coming. If they repeat the same actions, make the next time out longer. Eventually, the message will become clear and they will follow the rules.

I understand how stressful this situation is for you. On a regular basis, you have a lot more kids in the house than you're used to or maybe even comfortable with. I'm glad to see that you have rules and that the rules are the same for ALL the kids equally. This is SO important with stepchildren. They need to be treated the same as the kids who live in the house full-time. It's unfortunate that the kids don't have discipline when they aren't with you but this is really common. People parent differently so we all don't always agree on the "right" ways to do things. You need to stick to your rules. You say that the kids listen but then 2.5 seconds later, they're doing something again that they aren't supposed to. This actually is not about your rules or anyone else's discipline. This is a child being a child. Stick to your rules. Repeat them every single time and apply them consistently. If a child touches something three times, tell them NO three times. They are testing their limits with you. Children look to us for discipline and rules. If you watch a young child, for example, you can see them reach out for something that you've told them not to touch. You will often see them turn and look for an adult BEFORE they touch it. They are learning the rule but they will test it and you have to keep reinforcing it. You also say the stepchildren are breaking toys and things that "don't belong to them." Do they have things at your house that ARE theirs? Do you keep toys or other things that belong to them (and not to your other two kids) but stay at your house when they aren't there? If not, you should definitely consider this. Otherwise, they will never feel that your home is their home too and that they should be "living there" as a respectful, behaved part of the family -- not just as "guests" running wild while they visit. I'm sure they bring toys with them from their other homes but this is not the point. If everything in your home is made out to be "ours" or "theirs", the children won't ever feel that they belong or that they are valued as much as your two children that are they all the time. Ultimately, your husband is maintaining a relationship with his children and this is important. I hope as the children grow that it will get easier and more peaceful. Best of luck to you! :)

I guess it is hare dto deal with somebody's elses kdis it's hard enough to deal with your own lol. I wish you the best of luck with your issues and I hope that through mutual discussion and setting of rules with your husbnad you will be able to resolve these isssues. Kids can be eally strssful to deal with.