Taking My Kindness For A Weakness...

I am very sorry that people are being rude to you, there are always a few of them around. I have had my share of it as well. I finally started giving it right back. I too am not always a very nice person, I have a very short fuse. My friends all know that if you treat me with respect, I will try you with respect as well. However I will not respect anyone that demands my respect, and I never respect anyone that doesn't respect themselves. I think that there are a lot of people out there like us, we try and try but to no avail. I am thinking that it is really important for us to give what we get. I am not always a mean person but when someone treats me like trash, even after I have gone to the trouble of being nice to them, it makes me really mad. Now I just tend to walk away when someone is being rude. Seems to work pretty good for me. I hope that things work out for you and that people start showing you the respect that you deserve.

maybe they can't accept the 'nice' you. maybe they're use to you being a hot tempered person and all.

[i]That's really awful ShortyAkbar, I feel bad for you . The fact that it led you to the verge of nervous breakdown, makes the whole thing such a worst situation. I can understand what you mean though. I've been in the same seat before. I may not be the kindest person I know but I certainly think of other people first before myself. Yup, I've always been considerate and really forgiving of other people's shortcomings too. The bad thing about being nice though is others would see you as a push-over and then would do bad things to you since they know you'll try to find reasons for their bad deeds and forgive them in the end. It led me to the depression land as well until I told myself I had to let go of such people, that I have to find people who'll treat me right. I'm not changing for the bad, I am what I am. I am nice and I'll always be. If others can't dig that, so be it, but I'm not letting them change my life just because they want it. I hope you'll do the same. The world needs kind people like you. [/i]

There's no rule that says you have to resond to rudeness with niceness. It's good that you treat people nicely and with respect but, in my opinion, if they treat you badly in return you are well within your rights to tell them off. People will test you...especially if you're nice because that makes you appear safe...but there are ways to show them that they have crossed the line without acting like a thug. Even something as simple as looking at the person like he's something nasty you stepped in and telling him how incredibly rude he is can be effective. Don't let the bad behavior of others give you a nervous breakdown.

that is what i really don't like in being nice to people. it sometimes give the impression that i can be abused and that they can take advantage of me of my kindness and treat as weakness sometimes i really dno't want to be firm and to be strict and try to appear strong in front of people but i don't do that i am afraid to run the risk of being abused and being taken advantage. that is why i don't want to be nice too people if they don't clearly see that my kindness does not equate to being weak. i can be kind but still be strong and tough at the same time and that i will not be abused by people just easily . and if they do abused my kindness that i will surely going to take action. that is why i understand why some people don't just show their kindness or softer side easily because they know that people will tend to abuse if they do. they ahve to show first that they can be tough at first. and when they have shown that then only they can be comfortable showing their gentle side without being afraid of getting abused.

Hi,ShortyAkbar, Im sorry you are not yourself these days.Im not a good-tempered girl, nor am I so offensive.My patience is easy to run thin,esp. when talking with my family.Fortunately, I've been always polite to others,I mean besides my family. Sometimes I'm really angry with myself.Sorry for stray away from your post.Kindness is easy to be taken as weakness to some people.Its no use showing others too much kindness.Talk less,and do more, neglect what you dont like as much as possible. Be yourself. Thats what I think. Wish you all the best.

Treat others as they treat you. Never let other have their way with you. If people just do not give you the respect due to you, then they do not belong in your life. Get rid of them promptly.

It is a shame when kindness gets mistaken for a weakness. I have definitely experienced this in my life. People can take advantage of nice people. I don't like to do things like that to people. Whatever happened to treating people the way that we want to be treated? I know that is how I live my life. Sometimes it does not happen in a good way. Not every body understands how much they hurt people when they do the things they do. I don't think that people get it sometimes at all. They might not even care about what they do.