Mixed feelings...

@djemba (767)
India
January 24, 2009 3:37am CST
Theres this girl in college i really like and i thinks she likes me too ....we hangout a lot together ...I want to ask her out but i' m afraid of commitment because some of my friends say that commitment ties up your freedom... Please suggest a solution mylotters...What do i do???????
4 responses
• China
24 Jan 09
If you really like her just let heer konw your feeling.Since you two show interest in each other,Why not get together?Waiting for the good news~~~~~~~
@djemba (767)
• India
24 Jan 09
Thanks for sharing your thoughts..Its going to be a good news alright
@djemba (767)
• India
24 Jan 09
Did I sound too overconfident and arrogant with that? Because now I am sweating like apig thinking about how to make it special...
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I would say go ahead and see if it could go anywhere. Just because you ask some one out doesnt mean you have to hang that big word commitment out there. Dating isnt a commitment. If you dont ever go for it however you may be one of them guys who sit there later in life and wonder what might have been if you just took that chance. And if your dating turns into a relationship and commitment you dont loose your freedom if the relationship is built on trust and love, the only freedom you would loose is being with other people.
@djemba (767)
• India
24 Jan 09
I guess you are right ...Your suggestion at least gives me the courage to ask her out as your suggestion points the diff. b/w dating and commitment..i guess i never realizes that...thank you so much
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Well your welcome, good luck to you.
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Well, it all depends on how you define freedom and also, how much you like the girl. If you're the type who "likes a girl" and means "I like watching her but I don't want to be a part of her life" then just be satisfied with your current relationship. However, if you want to pursue a relationship with her then go and ask her out. I don't know what kind of friends you have but I doubt if any of them ever really fell in love - enough to what to be a part of somebody else's life. Commitment does not rob you of your freedom, it actually helps you become more free - more free to pursue something you believed in with more passion and direction. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@djemba (767)
• India
24 Jan 09
Well i like the girl and wanna be a part of her life ...I guess you're right i think i will ask her out the next time and i'm sure its going to be a yes ...Thanks for the advice..i guess you are also one of my friends and i think you're in love too.. oh and i really like responding to your discussions ..they're really interesting..
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Yeah I AM in love :D and thanks for the complement on my discussions :) see you around!
@deijaana (21)
• New Zealand
24 Jan 09
hmmmmmmmmmmm i say go for it!!! well only in the sense that you know what their goals in life are too you never know they may want some space you know to hang out with friends and family as well as being with you otherwise they might want a serious relationship and do you really think you're prepared for it?... let her know how you feel maybe first then make a decision from that...
@djemba (767)
• India
24 Jan 09
I could do that but what if she thinks i'm proposing and all..and then it gets too serious...i really don't know if i am ready for a serious relationship...
• New Zealand
24 Jan 09
hmmmmmmmmmmmm then i say that you should be fair to you both you don't want to do anything that you might regret or that you might make her regret not trying to sound so harsh sorry but in reading your last message then i suppose maybe just waiting till you know when you's are ready i know i just commented you like the totally opposite thing but i forgot to reply to this one first soz