give me a chance

Philippines
January 24, 2009 3:50am CST
For my 7 years I never had a a chance to get my salary. I am 26 yrs.old and yet I never receive my salary completely,Why?. Every time I had my salary mom get my payslip and see how mmuch is my salary, she gets all and I dont have any cents left. I need to ask her before I buy my needs,how terrible is my life I dont get her point.Even I told here that I need to live independently but mom get mad at me, :(. Everything I want I always ask permission to my mom. That is why every time that my friends had a party or an adventure I should ask permission and ask a money for my allowance and its a long period before I get it...I want freedommmmmmmmm.................... Oh my God I want to live on my own.. Lord.......
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11 responses
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I think you allowed her to do it. When I got my first pay check, I set aside my allowance for two weeks and gave everything to my mom. That happened every payday for years since I had a younger brother to send to school. At least, I get to decide how much I leave for myself and I get to budget my own earnings. Why not try to do the same. Hold your money and give the rest to your mom. Say, I left my allowance till the next pay day. good luck.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
24 Jan 09
this man is 26 years old he don,t need mom permission the chain has got to be broken.he is not a kid
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
27 Jan 09
i hope not it come a time when a man has to become a man sometime in his life.
• Singapore
27 Jan 09
i think you need to find a way to break the trend. if not, i can forsee that in the future when u are 40 years old. you will come back to mylot and start the same thread. Human are creature of habits, since you allow your mum to do it with your first salary and this has been ongoing for 7 years, it's is diffcult to break the trend. better start doing it. for my case, i will budget and set aside an amt for my mum's allowance. i give her a fixed amt every month and within my means, so i can still spend, enjoy life and save some money for rainy days.
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Sweetie, I'm really sorry to hear that. Your mom has DEFINITELY some problems going on with her and inside her. A mom, a good mom for that matter would give freedom to her daughter or son when it's due. You said you're 26, you should have been living on your own already. I think it's wrong for a mom to take your salary or money that you earned although you still can have it but like you said you need her permission. First off, you are the one working for it. Second, why on earth do someone have to take someone's money and put it like the person is a bank (strict bank). Third, your mom must have set you free already.. you are working already, i think it's enough and your age qualifies for it. Talk to your mom about it. It is serious. She should help you out and not make things so complicated and hard for you.
@coolblu (54)
• United States
26 Jan 09
THe reason why is because your mom has full control over you and your money and you allow this to happen.. Its time for you to open up yourself a bank account and have your check go direct deposit then your mom can't take your money anymore. She is wrong for what she is doing and she knows it.
• Australia
25 Jan 09
I think it is time you sat down and discussed this with your mother,tell her you are an adult now and the money is legally yours and she cannot be taking it from you,you have your pay and discuss a amount that you would give her for board,then I think you need to save up your money and definitely move out, you need to be independant. Good Luck with it,and I hope it all works out good for you in the end:)
• United States
25 Jan 09
I say do not give her your money. Take your money and move out. Your a grown man and its not nice of your mom to take all your money. My mother tried to do that to me and I moved out. Good luck to you and happy my lotting.
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
Are you an only child? Hm. You know, you should get married so that your husband can take you away. Then you'll have a separate life.. Just kidding. :) I think.. As long as you're submissive, she'd keep taking advantage of this weakness.. I know, it's difficult and all these are easy to say. Have you tried talking to her about it? I mean, a really serious talk. I guess you will just have to say no to her.. Yeah, she'll get pissed off and all but what's the right thing to do anyway? You're 26 years old. You are an adult, of legal age. You have your own rights, too. Here are a few things I'd like to share: In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed; it must be achieved. -Franklin D. Roosevelt [i] Freedom is that instant between when someone tells you to do something and when you decide how to respond.[/i]-Jeffrey Borenstein So you'll have to do something about it to get that freedom you want. I agree with the second quote, you'll get that freedom you want when you are finally able to decide on how to respond when your mom gets your payslip..
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
24 Jan 09
iam sorry you are a grown man mom should not be getting your pay check at 26 years old.you have t stop this you are not a kid anymore.here is what you do when you get paid ask mom how much she needs.don,t give her your payslip anymore.i know you love your mom but you have to draw the line.if she say give me your payslip you refuse.tell mom i love you and you have raised me right to do right bu my money.but mom iam a man now i can handle my own money from now on.just tell me what you need and i will try to help out as best i can.mom please understand i need this for me.
• Brazil
24 Jan 09
If you're 26 years old, you don't have to ask permission to go live on your own, she's abusing you that's my opinion. Even if she does get mad, she'll get over it, you need to have your own life!
@bmwgem (34)
24 Jan 09
The way in which your paid in your country is obviously different to here although whether you have options on it is a different thing. In the UK our salary is paid directly into a bank account or you receive a cheque in your name that only you can cash. Your 26 years old, an adult!! Your the one that has worked for that money why should you have to ask someone else whether you can have some of it to spend. You need to get away and start living your own life. How on earth are you gonna learn to be responsible with bills, money etc if you have to rely on someone else. I'm not critisising you in anyway, it's your mother that is in the wrong.
@amitksing (1323)
• India
24 Jan 09
For your Mom, U may not be a grown up yet. Thisz why she is treating U like a child. May be she is not very confident of your decisions and hence, wants to monitor everything that concerns you. You are 26 now. I think you need to talk to your Mom. Tell her things very frankly. Even this step may make her feel that U hv grown up hence talking like a young man.