what you think about this ?

i see what you mean. well, if it was me i just go head and just show the video i made. it's just a hint that you won't do anything stupid with her daughter.

They didnt care if they hurt your feelings, so why should you care about theirs?

Hi syankee; This is quite the dilemma. I feel for you. I hug my nieces and nephews also. If my sister in law began to accuse me of something like this, I would be hurt and disappointed, never mind floored. What does the husband of the sister in law say about the accusations? I would show the video. If the sister in law and niece, or anyone else in the family for that matter, has anything to say, such as "Hey where's so-n-so"? or "Hey, so-n-so isn't in there", I would bluntly and as a matter of fact, say to whoever that "Hey, the reason they are not in the video is because they [niece and sister in law] accused me of messing with [niece] so-n-so. In order not to give them anything to create untrue accusations about, I felt it would be to my best interest to leave them out of it". If anyone tries to begin to get flared up, start an argument or even raise their voice just calmly say "Look, it is what it is, I am not going to argue". Leave it at that and change the subject. Or turn to another family member and strike up a conversation about something of an entirely different topic. This is a very sensitive subject. Another way to go about it is to bring up the fact that these two are not in the video and why before you show it. That way everyone is already prepared. Additionally, I would never be alone with the mother in law and or the niece, ever.

It certainly would not matter to me if they saw it or not and I would not do anything to spare their feelings. As far as I am concerned if they did what they did once then they may very well do it again. Best to stay out of the way of persons who are like that and not play the suck-up game. I'd think they'll just maul me in the mud all over again if it tickles their fancy. Tough love.

I don't think I would care if they saw it or not. And if the did see it, I don't think I would care if it hurt their feelings or not. They obviously didn't care about your feelings so why should you care about theirs?

What on earth made them think you would do something like that.I expect it was a teenager having a fantasy and her mother would have to beleave her,unfortunately you were this young girls fantasy victim maybe you should forgive and forget but guard yourself well.If the truth be told your niece is probably very upset about what she did and wants to forget about it,mind you it could have ruined your life and your marriage so be careful with them,no one could blame you if you never spoke to them again.I think you should call the shots on this one and you do whatever you feel comfortable with.

take a hundred dollar gold coin, now put it on the bbque grill and turn it on high for let's say 1/2 hour, now, it falls on the ground, are you gonna reach down and pick it up or wait untill it cools. stay far and wide away your walking on glass if one of them get's p.o.'d for some reason your screwed. now if she is telling the truth you should rot in hell. how's that.

I feel you on this one so bad. I think that if you want to show off your video, then do it. If they find out about it and have a problem with it, THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM. You were accused of something that is not only wrong, but damaging to all who were involved. I feel sorry about that. On the other hand, you are close to who you want to be close to. These are obviously people that you love and care for and have a bond with that didn't damage your person or reputation. If these ladies want to say something, look them in the face and tell them that what they did hurt you and you aren't taking it lightly. If they have a problem with the video--close your eyes!! Don't go rubbing it in their faces because if you have family--there is bound to be a talker who is going to talk about it anyways. Maybe they will get the point and just drop it. Follow your heart! Good luck to you!

Yankee, I've known you for many years and I know how much that accusation hurt your heart. I know that your wife is concerned about their feelings but your feelings are just as important. This was your project and you should be able to include...and exclude...anyone you choose without feeling guilty.

Well I would have to say forgive and forget as forgiveness is the biggest virtue that a human could possibly have. I could understand why you do the things you do. Afterall, they were the ones who started it first by accusing you wrongly for the things you had not done. If I am in your position, I might have done the same thing too in a fit of anger. However, coming to think about it. Why stoop to their level just because they treated you that way. In this way, you are indirectly letting them win which could be what they want to see from you. Someone once said to me when others treat us with unkindness, we treat them back with kindness. In this way, we get the final victory as a person with conscience would ultimately feel guilty and in the end, would apologise for their wrong doings. Besides that, by not stooping to their levels, in a way you are also letting others see your big heartedness and your sister in law's narrow minded thinking. Ultimately, you would have won the battle. Why fight the war and lose the battle right? This is the Art of War, and a way to also preserve your own intergrity and dignity. I am not saying that you are wrong here. Like I mentioned, I would had reacted in the same way if placed in your position. Afterall, words are cheap, but wanting to put it into actions is another matter altogether. Well, I wish you all the best and happy mylotting!!

Just pray to God to enlighten these people. If you're telling the truth then God will be in your favor, don't worry. Other people misinterpreted hugs for ladies, they put malice in it, so we have to adjust especially if you meet those conservative ones.

WOwo! That would have seriously embarassed me, if they ever told me that I was doing anything like that when I was not. Then soon the embarassment will become anger and I tend to be very ruthless and brash when I am angry. I may never even communicate with them again. Moreover, it will be very uncomfortable to that family ever again!

If they're really lying about that, then screw them you don't need them! But that's an awful thing to lie about, why would she do that? To try to make you and your wife fight?