Which relationship is better?? HUSBAND-WIFE or MOTHER-CHILD??

@dsharat (456)
India
January 25, 2009 7:52am CST
Hello every one... Every one says that a "Mother-child" relation is the greatest relationship on the planet.Its the strongest bond.But in most of the relations only mother will be loving more,the child does not even know his/her mothers love. What I believe is a Husband-wife relation is also a great relation on earth.The mutual understanding will be great.Because of this relation the mother-child relation comes out. So Friends,whats your opinion...? Please share with us.. Happy mylotting!!!!
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Is this a cultural statement? In Western culturals children love their Mothers above all else, Mother is the first person in a child's life and represents safety, food, and above all love. Now it's true this is not always a perfect relationship but even if there is hate here there is always love also, on a very basic level. Is this an answer or did I read the question wrong?
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Now it's true this is not always a perfect relationship but even if there is hate here there is always love also, on a very basic level. sorry I disagree...there is NO LOVE between my mother and I...none at all...
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
25 Jan 09
I am so sorry about that, I sense great anger there. Is that true. If it is you might want to revisit this relationship, strong emotion of any kind represents an attachment. I recognize this because I've been there and until you can let go you will be tyed to the relationship. Blessings
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
25 Jan 09
But in most of the relations only mother will be loving more,the child does not even know his/her mothers love. WHOA sorry but you are way wrong in that one....My kids and I have a VERY tight relationship and its equal..My kids KNOW my love for them and the extent of it as I do theirs..... What I believe is a Husband-wife relation is also a great relation on earth.The mutual understanding will be great.Because of this relation the mother-child relation comes out Not quite sure what you are saying here but what I'm getting from that comment is that its because of the husband/wife relationship that the mother/child relationshp is born but I'm sorry I highly disagree....There are numerous adopted childrenn out there with only one parent who are loved more than anything...One doenst need to be in a relationship let alone a marriage to be a parent.. As far as I'm concerned, there is NO LOVE greater than that between a mother and her child in many cases but sadly not all...BUT when there is love there, it can't be topped IMO..
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@dsharat (456)
• India
25 Jan 09
Hi there... Thanks for the response!!! Only few kids understand their parents love and effort in growing up them.You are lucky!!!And I'm not comparing any relations with mothers love.What I'm trying to tell is that,Husband-wife relationship is also an important one.Because their behavior at home will definitely effect their kids life...Adopting a child is a different case.
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
25 Jan 09
There are somethings which should never be compared. There are some ingredients which are common to every relationship such as understanding, care, love etc. But the requirement of every relationship is different. Few things you cannot share even with your child, though your relationship is purest with the child, for that you need to share it with your husband. So no relationship is less as compared to other.
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@dsharat (456)
• India
25 Jan 09
Well said sunita!!
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
27 Jan 09
For me the mother-child is the more unconditional, pure love. With my partner there are expectations and personality issues although we love each other very much. It is more difficult to give and receive love in a romantic relationship, I think, we seem to have more expectations of the way things should be. That is how it is for me; with my little daughter there are no preconceived ideals on how we should be together and I just love her and would give my life for her; it is what it is; she was just born, she did not have to do or be anything for me to care for her.
• Nepal
27 Jan 09
hi dsharat, nice to talk on this topic after a long time.Yes mother-child relation comes first then husband-wife relation. mother-child is natural,open,non-self love to their child where as husband-wife life may be 40 percent business life sharing 60 percent trust and intimate relationship. In a brief,mother is teacher and marriage is Homework given by teacher for our life.
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I think mother -child relationship is a greatest one as it cannot be denied by anone. YOu can not say that your mother is no more your mom. But a person can say this to his wife and get divorced. But when it comes to feelings part, the husband - wife relationship is a good one. They both may have different opinions or tastes, but still they love each other an dcare for the other.
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@Crocket (315)
• Canada
26 Jan 09
I would say that each relationship has its own qualities that should not be slighted. I know that when I was getting along with my three wives that this seemed to be the most important to me. Now that they are gone it is my mother that I look forward to sharing time with and having a relationship where we can talk about all the good old times and the fun that we have shared together. Crocket.
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@michmich2 (432)
• United States
26 Jan 09
While I think both relationships are very strong and important, I feel that the mother-child wins out in the end. My husband and I have a great relationship, and the fact that we both love each other so much and understand our relationship in the same way makes it very strong. However, from the moment a mother sees her newborn child (and for some, during pregnancy), she feels a love that is like no other. Of course, this is just my opinion, but I never knew I could love someone as much as I love my kids. As far as the child, from the time they are tiny babies, mothers symbolize and provide food, security, and everything else that is important to a baby. While both are very important and significant relationships, I feel like the greatest is the mother-child. Great question!
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
26 Jan 09
Hi, Any relation is GREAT provided it's a 'Respect-Respect'(like win-win) situation, value of that relationship is maintained by all.Then only the bond will be stronger and the fear/apprehension of tearing that Bond will be next to impossible. You are right! in Mother-child relationship mostly Mother gives an unconditional Love, which makes it Greatest of all relationship.
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• United States
26 Jan 09
I think it depends on the actual people involved. there are couples who are closer to each other than they will ever be to any of their kids. And then there are some mothers who are closer to their children than they have ever been to their husbands.what is better? I don't know. I never wanted either relationship. I Never want to marry or to have children.I would never feel close to a child Or a husband.But I was close to my mom.
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@zhuhuifen46 (3485)
• China
26 Jan 09
A very good question, and a serious issue for the family. Unless warned before-hand, a new mother tends to be in better relationship with her baby, which might bring about bad feelings, conflicts, cold war, or even outside affairs. I highly recommend that the husband be prepared for the days to share the happiness of the new member, and understand the physical hardship and mental struggling of his spouse on the coming of the baby. Meanwhile, the wife is obliged to care about both in a balanced way, so that everybody gains peace, health and happiness.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
26 Jan 09
Hi there friend. Actually the better relationship has to be between husband and wife, because before the children there is the couple that lives together, and they will still live together after their parents die, or after their children move to their new homes.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Both relationship are important. The harmoniouos way of dealing with both relationship and showing of love is important to be happy in life. A relation for mother and child is unique and whether you want it or not you have no choice but to accept it. It will never be broken whether tested with anything in life because a mother will always be a mother and a child will always be a child. However, the relationship for husband and wife can be broken. You have choices to end it anytime through divorce and find another person in replace for the other partner.
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• China
26 Jan 09
i have three female friend ,when i feel upset,i can talk to them,i feel happy having some best friends just like this.friendship is also the strongest relation in the planet.
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@bamrahkirti (1818)
• India
26 Jan 09
I think both these relationships are equally important in woman's life and do not have supremacy over each other.Mother-child relation is a very beautiful one and it is the deepest and strongest bond on earth.A child is closest to his mother and a woman becomes a complete woman when she becomes a mother . Husband-wife relationship is a very powerful relation and if mutual understanding and love is there in this relationship then couple can fight against all worldly odds.
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• United States
25 Jan 09
Mother-Child is the best relationship, I think, of course! You should never put a husband above your child, and yes, the child knows how much you love him/her, it'swhat I personally think.
@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
25 Jan 09
For me its the mother-child. I have four kids and the bond that formed is a bond that can never be broken. To hold my children right after birth and realize the gift that God gave me is unbelievably. My kids come first and are the most important things in my life. I would die for my children and will do everything in my power to make sure they become the best they can be. I love my husband but I gave birth to my kids and held my kids and promised to love and take care of them until the day I die. Motherhood is the greatest gift of all and for the me the best relationship of all.
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@srijshm (1165)
• India
25 Jan 09
Mother - child relation is greater anyday. No efforts are required to keep this relationship going. whereas a husband -wife relationship is always conditional, quality time, understanding, sacrifising hobbies are all the pre-requisites to keep this relationship going, but a mother does not demand all this from her child, her love is unconditional & blind.
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@shinymood (406)
• China
25 Jan 09
I think mother-child relation is greater for me than the other one now that I'm a mom of my 11 month old. She's so cute and adorable that you'll miss her every single second without her being around. Things are getting different after I gave birth to my baby. I would telephone my huddy when we didn't see each other before and now I easily devote much time to my baby and forget my husband. I try not to ignore my baby's father but I still do sometimes.
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25 Jan 09
A mother child relationship and husband wife relationship are two different types. Both as equally important.I don't think you can put one ahead of the other. A father child relationship should be as strong as the mothers, although often in different ways to the mother. Both should be working together for the child. In an ideal world anyway! In reality, with seperated families... a mother child bond should be greater than a mother step father relationship. Does that make any sense at all? LOL!!
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