Living together leads to divorce?
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
January 25, 2009 6:00pm CST
Don't live together if you want to stay married, so says a nationwide study of over 2000 couples. The study found that couples that had lived together before getting married were 2 to 3 times as likely to get divorced as couples who had not live together. Does living together before marriage lead to divorce? How else can you explain this findings? thank you..
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
26 Jan 09
This really surprises me. I would think that it would be exactly the opposite. Living together before marriage lets you experience all of the little annoying habits that your partner has and you have time to get use to them before committing your life to him/her. Getting married without living together is like going in blind. Not really knowing what this person is to live with would have me believe that this would lead to more divorce than already experiencing living together.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
.. so, you mean it would be better to live together first before getting married?
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I would think it would be better to live together first. This way you can see if this is someone you want to live with for the rest of your life. Just my opinion though.
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@dinos1 (204)
• Greece
26 Jan 09
If 2 people love each other, living together will either bring them even closer or make them break up for people finding out characteristics that they didn't know their "mate" to have. All others are just excuses IMO for people not willing to say "I got bored with him/her".
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
31 Jan 09
It doesn't make sense to me but what do I know? I really think it depends on how committed the couple is to each other. I didn't live with my first husband and the marriage lasted 5 yrs. I did live with my 2nd husband for 3 years and our marriage lasted 13 yrs. my daughter lived with her husband before marriage and their marriage is over 10 years and very strong. I guess it all depends on those participating in the surveys.
@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
28 Jan 09
I think there is something to it.
Here in Europe it is the same.
People live together for a long time and get married.
Before you now it there getting a divorce.
I think people that don't live together before there marriage build up a better foundation for there relationship.
They go out more, and have fun together before things start into a routine.
SX is also less in the beginning, where as you learn to appreciate each other more.
I think.
Take care.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
i dont think that is true. me and my wife had lived together for four years before we got married. we learned more on what are traits are and we learn to accept are shortcomings before we really took the plunge. we know what we dont like and what we both like. so the marriage is on smooth sailing. of ocurse we still have our misunderstandings.... but it is much easier to solve it for i know her that much and she knows me that much
