What am I doing wrong

@dianocuz (115)
United States
January 26, 2009 12:46am CST
I had been out of the dating arena for awhile, but getting back in has been hell. The other day a beautiful lady started flirting with me at the office. She is a manager, MBA, great shape, excellent potential. i flirted back, everything went well. Next day, she walks in dressed to kill, I mean HOT! Then she walks up to my desk and just stands there, saying nothing. Finally, I close my mouth, call her a goddess and profess my love. She never showed any emotion, at all. After I became silent, she asked for the time. The clock was on the wall, but, I tell her the time anyway and she walks away. Next day I see her and ask her out, then she tells me she is dating someone. A week later another gorgeous HOTTY starts flirting, I respond. Next day she approach my desk, I immediately fall to one knee and ask her to marry me, she stops, no emotion, then turns and leave. The next time i see her, I apologize profusely if I have offended her. She states she was not offended, that she understood that it was all in fun and that I was forgiven. Later I asked her out and was told that she was dating someone. Once, I can understand, but twice. Is this some new dating ritual? Am I missing something? Am I being singled out? Do I pursue? Run? Give up? HELP!!! What am I doing wrong?
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5 responses
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Why do you drop on your knees on the very next day? One. Maybe they really are dating someone and they were dressed to kill for THEM and not for you and interpreted their hotness to flirtation (and sorry but girls do flirt when they know they're hot even though they're not necessarily being sexy for specifically you). Two. Why not just stick to the casual flirting for a few more days? THEN ask her out on a date. It'll be much easier for you to "test the waters" - to make sure that the flirting was not something you wished sorely and ended up imagining. :D But if they WERE flirting with you, then that means that you shouldn't be having such a bad time going back to the dating world. All you have to do is look for a girl to date and not just wait for them to approach you on your desk.
• Malaysia
26 Jan 09
"girls do flirt when they know they're hot even though they're not necessarily being sexy for specifically you" I totally agree. That's just what girls do. And sometimes, some girls are just over friendly that you might mistake it for flirting. Besides, girls just love playing hard to get.
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
yeah - it's pretty easy especially if the boy makes it obvious to the girl that he's into her. Sadly not all girls are nice enough to stop when it's already too much.
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
They were flirting with me. I am HOT! They told me so. My office has about 60 good looking ladies. I flirt with most of them. In fact, I am bald because I cut my hair off once and when they saw it, 10 immediately came and made me promise to keep it that way. But these 2 I would have given anything for. I just must know when to play and when not! Thanks Ladies!
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I do hope you were joking about professing your love or asking the woman to marry you. Who knows what is wrong? Maybe they just like flirting with you or feeling like they still "have it". Maybe you should try playing a little harder to get?
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Great legs! Would professing my love and asking you to marry me be a turnoff? How does a man play hard to get? Isn't that like an oxymoron?
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Those are not my legs I cannot marry you, as my wife forbids such a thing Maybe waiting more than a couple of times talking to them would be considered playing hard to get or at least aloof.
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I'm definitely gonna get me some of those smilie faces! Any other response to your answer is not as effective! large smilie face winking with a devilish grin on it's face!
@rsa101 (19938)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I guess I can sense in you that you seem to be a nice person but I guess your spontaneity is not working well for you in both cases. I think when a lady approaches you and started talking nicely to you then it is not a sign that they like you too. When asking for like will you marry me kind of proposal I guess that is done in a more formal manner not instinctively or what. Of course you should go to the courting stage before you could do that. I guess in both cases you showed recklessly that made them turned off with them. Go slowly and try to be more formal in getting their attention. I guess by doing so you would leave an impression that you are serious about them and you're not looking at their physical outlook.
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I guess adolescent responses are not appropriate. Point well taken. Thank you for your thoughts.
@rsa101 (19938)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Golden rule: Be serious and you'll be taken seriously too.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I think you are missing out on why ladies flirt. It's not only for getting a date. Sometimes, it's just for mere fun. Because of the complexity of the world we live in, people have adapted themselves to that same complexity. It would be wise then to do a research before asking a woman out.
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Flirting for fun is a cruel thought. That's like teasing a baby with candy and not giving them any. CRUEL!
• United States
26 Jan 09
Yes,it is cruel but it is reality.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
26 Jan 09
maybe you are coming across a desperate and lonely LOL Try not being so direct. Let the flirting go on for a little while, such as days or possibly even weeks...they will let you know when they are ready to go out...but don't wait for them to ask you. Doing so will show weakness, lack of confidence, or indecision...
@dianocuz (115)
• United States
26 Jan 09
They are gorgeous, i cant help but be desperate. are you suggesting that when they walk up to my desk just to ask the time looking especially enticing, i should not grab them. (smile) Don't be too direct, or too eager and don't wait too long. Where's the magic genie so I can rub his belly?! (smile) I will wait until after we have a couple of low key conversations then maybe consider a casual outing, ie cofee, walk in the park, etc. thanx!