To warn this is a little long but I need help!
By sxrxnrr45601
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
United States
January 26, 2009 5:23am CST
ok a few years back I meet a guy we dated for a while and well started to fall in love than one day he just stopped talking to me well after I healed a broken heart and started to move on I ran into him and he explained to me that it scared him how he was feeling him being a single father and a great one at that has a really good job all the stuff the women look for well we have always talked since then and we remained friends now the bf I have now is a great guy and the father of my daughter I love him alot but I know deep down inside he is not the right one we have had our problems and an on and off again drug problem that he seems to go through 1 or twice a year My daughter just loves her daddy to death and I just dont think she could go one day without see him we really have a really funny relationship like we dont do alot together that we should and I dont think either one of us are really happy but we continue to stay together at one point and time we done everything to gether I do not dout my love for him just the fact that what we want my not be what we need
now out of the blue my ex tells me that he is passed all the gitter stuff and he wants a relationship with me knowing I am with someone and to be honest I am not sure if I am scared of getting hurt by him again or that I just really love the man I am with being with my ex would be a better life for me and my childern and no drugs and At one point and time I loved this man or do I stay with my daughters father i mean he dont do or bring drugs around in our house be he dose do them about 1 or twice a year and I am talking about weed omg I just dont know what to do
maybe just be bymyself lol lol any advice here
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2 responses
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Stop and think! Don't let your ego ruin your relationship between your daughter's father and you. If you are having problems in your present relationship, either work it out or get out. Handle that before you do anything else. You have a child now. You are not a child anymore. Get the stars out of your eyes. If this old boyfriend is serious about you, he will wait for you.
If he was scared before, how does he feel about you and your child? Maybe you had better ask some questions before you just blindly leap into this relationship the second time.
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
27 Jan 09
He adores both of my kids very much so I would never just blindly leap into anything for the sake of my kids and I would never cheat I am not that type and I give this to time for now just to see how things play out! thanks
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Smart girl. I will breath a big sigh of relief (smile). I was scared for a minute. Thanks. In that case, I wish you the best and take care. With lots of love.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Life is hardly simple and this is one example. You do have to decide for yourself based on what is good for you and what is good for your daughter. Things could change for the better. Cheers!!
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
27 Jan 09
I know what the right choice would be but gee wiz I just hate this stuff I love my bf so much but I know that he is not as good for me in a sense he kinda brings me down not saying hes a bad guy just saying hes older and really really set in his ways which I seem to have a prob with
