Are you polite when you taste something you don't like?

@hdjohnson (2981)
United States
January 26, 2009 10:28pm CST
My wife does majority of the cooking since we've been married. We used to eat out quite a bit before the effects the economy has had on everyone. She really is a good cook, and I enjoy learning more about nutrition of certain foods, as she has a degree in biology. Although she is knowledgeable about the nutrition in foods, she likes to try to cook new meals. Which is fine with me, although when we first got married, I'm sure she didn't like my frankness about how certain meals tasted. We are approaching our 9th anniversary this Thursday, so as you can see, I learned how to be tactful when I end up tasting something I do not like, but more importantly I have learned to tell her what I didn't like about a certain dish. Now, she enjoys the fact that I give her feedback. Other times she prepares meals that I really enjoy and that she doesn't even like. Talk about a interesting couple. Are you tactful when you don't like a meal your spouse or significant other has prepared? Or do you find yourself sleeping on the couch fairly often because of something you may have said?
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@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Yes, I am very polite when I have to taste something I don't like. I gave compliments even if it does not taste good because I don't want to be rude on a person, but I have to give nice comments like: "Oh this food is great or your cooking is fabulous, and you can add some enhancer next time to taste it much better, but this is very wonderful" you know things like that. But so far, my friends said that my frankness appeared so cute that they just laughed it off when I started complaining about a certain thing.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
27 Jan 09
You have some wise and good friends; thanks for the response.
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@ganak8 (173)
• India
27 Jan 09
My mom makes good eatables for me and i never used to complain about food she cooks and i dont like certain food items but still i manage to eat and dont want to hurt my mom.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
27 Jan 09
You sound like a wise and honorable child. A parent would be proud to have you. Thanks for your response and welcome to mylot.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
27 Jan 09
I am very tactful, if you aren't that would be very rude and not very loving. If my boyfriend was rude about it, he would go hungry. I don't always like what he makes and he doesn't always like what I make. But like you said, we give feedback and appreciate the effort put in.
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@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Lol, great question, reminds me a little of myself and my husband. Well I am the one who prepares all the meals in my household. I think my husband has made about 3 and we've been married going on 12 years. His meals were actually very good, no complaints there, just wish he would do it more often but I have no problem being the one to make them. I have made him meals that I don't really enjoy, there is one that is his favorite, it's called mole, a mexican dish. It tastes good, I just don't really enjoy it but I make it for him anyways because I know it's his favorite. I think once at the beginning of our marriage he told me "babe, thanks for the dinner, but don't ever make that again". I was a little shocked but it was funny at the same time so I wasn't too offended. I don't think he's ever told me that anymore and if he did not like something I know he'd tell me in a much nicer way. When a woman, or the man, has taken the time making a nice dinner in the kitchen they do deserve a nice compliment, or thank you, even if the food was not liked than some kind feedback, if the food was not liked.
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@anonymili (3138)
27 Jan 09
I think I'm mature enough to be able to handle constructive feedback from my hubby if I've cooked something dodgy. He is one of those very blunt people who will often say he doesn't like something when he doesn't like it, I've managed to get him to stop doing this when we're guests at other people's homes but if he can be totally blunt with MY MUM about her cooking sometimes and she can handle it, then I can handle it too. Except that he doesn't often have cause for complaint with my cooking - I'm not even very experienced at cooking nor do I particularly enjoy it. We do our equal share because we both work full time. He rarely cooks something I don't like so I guess we're ok on the food front and no one ends up sleeping on the couch ever! Although he cooked me some lamb mince a few weeks back and told me himself he felt it was a disaster before I even tried it, it was ok but not his best but I couldn't eat more than a few mouthfuls - but that wasn't due to his cooking - it was just poor quality lamb mince from the supermarket which we're not going to buy again!
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@TnWoman (1895)
• United States
28 Jan 09
hello hdjohnson lol your so funny in saying what you did about sleeping on the couch like that due to something that was said between a couple. lol i try to stay away from that couch. i like to get warm and cozy in my own bed. lol you know? but to answer your question about how do i react when i taste something that i do not like. i polietly take my napkin or paper towel and spit whatever that i didn't like out into that. lol then i just push that away to the side of my plate or cover it up with other food that may be left on my plate. lol take care and have a beautiful evening and stay off of that couch!
• Canada
28 Jan 09
I do believe it's easier to tell a spouse or significant other that you don't care for food they prepared than it would be to tell a casual friend or business associate that has invited you for a meal. I will try just about anything once and, if I don't care for it and the person asks if I like it, I won't lie. I will be polite and thank them for the chance to try something new and, when I don't finish it, I assume they will know I didn't like it. If they ask me directly, I'll tell them that it's not really something I care for. If I'm served food by someone who has invited me and they aren't a person I'm close to, I'll be more discreet... I'll take a small bit and try it and then leave the rest on the plate, along with bits of items that I DID like... that way it just appears that I'm full and I don't have to risk the person's feelings :)
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
28 Jan 09
It is just my husband and me, and I do all of the cooking. My husband is very straight forward when I prepare something that he does not like. He is basically a steak and potato person, I do not eat red meat, so anything other than steak, I can expect a comment. He will compliment me on my meals, but the ones he does not like, he will let me know. I just take it in stride, it's basically be thankful for what you got.
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