Long Distance Relationship

Philippines
January 27, 2009 4:14am CST
Hi there! My boyfriend and I just celebrated our second anniversary as boyfriends/girlfriends. I can say that I am happy with him. Infact I am lucky to have him in my life. As of the moment, we are far from each other because he is in another place for his practice teaching. what bothers me is that - what if my boyfriend will fell in love with another girl??? I am afraid of losing him. He told me that he cannot do that (the thing of exchanging me with another girl) but still I am afraid... temptation lurks everywhere!!! It bothers me!!! HELP!!!!!!!
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11 responses
@mayshella (293)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Hi Karen!! Upon checking you're still 19 years old, you're still young. So, there's still a lot of things that might happen. You wouldn't know if you and your boyfriend will end up together or you may both find the right person for both of you as you get matured. Long distance relationship is a lot of risk. Of course everybody is afraid of losing someone we love regardless of how near or far we are from our dearest. We can't hold forever what we have now. All we need to do is to enjoy the feeling we have and nurture it as much as possible. I'm a product of a long distance relationship. Like you, I'm afraid as well that my boyfriend might end up looking for someone near to him. But, that feeling will vanished if you have enough trust with your guy. Open communication as well is important to long distance relationship. Nowadays, it's not hard anymore to communicate with the technology that we have. There's cellphone, you can text each other everyday. The internet as well can help you. And by the way, don't forget to pray. If you are really meant for each other, no distance is too far for both couple who are truly in love with each other. Trust me... I've been there for 3 years and now we are married. =)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
thanks mayshella.. You're an angel!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
You are welcome Karen. and thank you for giving me the best response. Enjoy mylotting!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
that is true,, though guys have told us that we are the only person in their lives, we are still bothered and feel afraid. But for me, even the temptation lurks everywhere it will still be up to him because if he really loves you, he would never be tempted. My guy always meet temptation but never did it. If my guy can do it, he can still do it too.. Just do not put your whole trust in him but do not nag at him as well.. That will be my advice!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
thanls for the advice haydee...
@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
don't bother...don't make yourself paranoid! if u have trusted him, then there's nothing to be worried about. just focus yourself on what u should do and life has to move on. If you two are meant to be then it will make its way, if it's not, then u have to accept whatever it will bring. Life is simple if we only know how to accept reality, it wouldn't be hard if we just only broaden our mind. I know losing someone you love hurts, that's a normal feeling...sooner or later you will learn to understand and it will make you stronger than ever. So, just enjoy your life being her girlfriend and stop thinking of anything. relax...keep the trust and faith!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
maybe you're right... maybe I'm just being paranoid at times... and yes, I have to have trust and faith... thanks for the advice joodzki
@denise002 (444)
• Australia
27 Jan 09
there isnt really much you can do about that but have trust and faith that he will stay loyal to you, and if he truely loves you he will :]
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
thanks Denise...
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
TRUST is one of the most important thing in every relationship. Trust is much more important when you're long distance. Trust your bf.. if you can feel his love, never doubt a thing. I'm in a long distance too, my bf is in Canada... I know him, I trust him enough and he knows how to value the trust I gave him. If you can't help the feeling of thinking he'll fall in love with another girl, when you get to talk to him, express how much you love and trust him.. just say it constantly. Goodluck!
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Well, you can't do anything about it my friend. Just trust you boyfriend fully but at the same time you have to be watchful for the possibility of it for what you have said temptations may bound to happen. I am too in a long distance relationship and i would usually joke my fiance that he may have another women but he continually to assure me that he won't do such thing. Temptations no matter how they try to tempt you but if you as a person is steadfast with your will it will not succeed. Pray for it that your bf will be strong to withstand temptations.
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
me too...we're in the same situation..my bf is far from me too..and knowing that he and his ex-gf whom he loved greatly were in the same place,i'm very much bothered and afraid...but he said,,"JUST TRUST" and so do i..(he's also very much bothered of me falling in love with other guy here in my place..)so i think,maybe he's right,,,its just a very big TRUST.
@diillu (5128)
27 Jan 09
Well, the only thing that get the long distance relationship going is the "Trust". Long distance relationship is more fragile than the other relationships and simple misunderstanding could lead to the worst results. So, in order to avoid this regular conversations and trust is really required. Or you can make visit quite often if you feel scared.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Long distance relationships are tough at times...My bf lives in another state adn I worry about those things as well believe me...BUT you have to have that trust in him and what he tells you and basically hope for the best...One MUST IMO when it comes to long distance relationships is solid honest communication...
• South Korea
27 Jan 09
hi karen,i know what you feel we have the same situation.All i can say is pray for the relationship that will last forever.Nothing is impossible in GOD.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
27 Jan 09
It's one of the dangers of long distance relationship. Just trust him. On your part, make sure you communicate often. Send him messages,letters or call him. You can also set a time to meet, let's say a day in a month or perhaps twice a month depending on the distance. Make sure that even if you are not physically together, you stay in touch.