How to deal with the egoist?
By ahgong
@ahgong (10064)
Singapore
January 27, 2009 10:44am CST
Egoist
Some people will always praise themselves for anything and everything.
Even the simple meet up with an acquaintance, he will be praising himself as having the best people relations skills.
When he scores 60 in an exam, he will be telling the world he scored 100, so much so, people around him are embarrassed for him.
Actually, egoist have very low self esteem.
They love to give people the impression that they are doing better than they actually are. Always boasting about their achievements, however small they are, to satisfy their own egoistic self.
How to deal with them?
Meeting with such people, you can only use humor to handle them.
Give vague compliments to his boasting. Do not expose his bluff. Just laugh it off will do. No loss to you to let him believe that he has convinced you.
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3 responses
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Egoists seem to flourish everywhere! But dealing with them in a day-to-day basis never poses an issue to me-yet. I am the type of person who just like to listen to other people's rant. Oftentimes, when the subjet of their rant is always "me, myself and I" then I just nod my head, half-listening.
For as long as they are not "egotistic" person, someone who is selfish, then I can go by listening to their stories.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
31 Jan 09
Well, I cannot deny the fact that some of these egoist have some pretty interesting stories to tell of their achievements.
But some of them are so irritating, I avoid them altogether. These are the ones that try to thumb other people's efforts down in order to boost their own standing in the situation. These are the ones I usually avoid so as not to get into an argument due to differences in opinions about the same situation. 
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Your are right, ahgong. Listening to egoist's stories about themselves is one thing. But if they downgrade others just for them to move up the ladder is a different thing... and I may be the #1 oposser of such motives.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
28 Jan 09
Everybody has got ego in them.. It depends on how big or small it is.. U are right in saying, egoist ple have very low self esteem.. But still, it's not right to over boost about oneself..
Though they can look very happy on the outside, but deep inside them, they are actually very lonely.. They only want friends to be around them, hoping for someone to share the same interest ^_^
But they are not pitiful at all.. It's just that they have chosen a wrong way of expressing themselves ^_^ I believe they know what they are doing, and it's just for a moment of fulfilment to themselves ^_^
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
31 Jan 09
Well, that is a pretty good analysis of what an egoist is.
Yes, they have low self esteem. And yes, they are not pitiful at all.
Some of them love to make their miniscue achievement look like monumental efforts. And you be amazed at the tall tales they will spin to make their achievements look big!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
28 Jan 09
i am not really good with faking. i prefer not to deal with people who live in their minds that way. there is nothing wrong with feeling good about doing something. however to always look for a pat on the back is not good. when i come in contact with people like this the best thing for me to do is remove myself.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
31 Jan 09
Yeah, when these people get too much in their boasting, avoiding them is the best.
The worst part about these egoist is, most of them do not know how to take a hint that people are not interested in their boasting.
And when you smack that fact back in their faces, they get offended.
So humor them if you can. Avoid them when you can't.
