If I got jealous does that mean that I dont trust my boyfriend?

Philippines
January 28, 2009 5:47am CST
Im confused of these two words. I trust my bf but sometimes i cant control to get jealous with his some officemates and girl friends... :(
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9 responses
@rosdimy (3935)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 09
Love involves trust and a certain level of jealousy. If what you feel does not make you become unnecessarily angry towards him, then it is normal. If you do not feel jealous at all it could mean you like him very much but you may not actually love him. I dare say this because I have had experiences in this matter. I believe your trust for him is real. If not you could have thrown tantrums and maybe ask for a separation. Remember that the one we love is not exclusively ours. He/she has other responsibilities requiring contact with other people. all the best, rosdimy
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Thanks bro! yeah you were right too. I do love him so much :D
@bbaychic (45)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I don't think you should be jealous of his officemates, I mean, he just works there. He HAS to be around them...as for his girl friends. Well, you can never really know until something happens. But most important of all is his general character. Was he a player before you got together? Does he flirt alot? If one of these is the case, I would be mildly concerned. But he's with you isn't he? Why get jealous of other girls when he isn't even with them...:) You got him girl, enjoy it and be happy... Jealousy is a natural feeling and will rear its ugly head sooner or later, but just make sure that you don't take it out on your bf because that will only drive him away from you. :) Hugs
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Oh! thank you! sometimes i just dont know maybe you are correct i got insecure them with nothing.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
It's either you are insecure or you don't trust your boyfriend that much. Jealousy usually stems from being insecure. A fear that someone might take away our partner from us. It doesn't all the time mean that we don't trust them but we sometimes feel inferior to the one we are jealous of. The best thing you can do is be confident about yourself and always think that you are still lucky because you have him as your official boyfriend while some girls can only daydream of having him.
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Thanks, maybe i got jealous with the time he spent in the office with some flirty officemates.
@MsTickle (25136)
• Australia
7 Jun 09
I don't think trust or jealousy come into this at all. You seem to be a clever lady, not some silly young thing. You sense things are not quite right because of things you have seen and heard, or things he has said and or done. You know deep inside you that this relationship is not quite right. It's my belief this guy is using you and playing you too. It's hard for you to admit these things to yourself because you believe yourself to be in love with him. Let me tell you this...if you and your man are in love and everything is fine...you will not be experiencing these painful negative things. You will feel happiness deep inside you because his love gives you such good feelings, the two of you will share something special between you that completes the both of you. There is absolutely no room for jealousy or mistrust or insecurity. If your relationship does not have these things then I would let it go.
@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
3 Feb 09
I don't think jealousy allways has to go hand in hand with mistrust. Also, it could be that you do trust your boyfriend but that you don't trust his "flirty officemates". Even if he pushes them away straight away they can still try and make a move; perhaps that's what bothers you? I can also see why him spending more time with them might make you jealous.
@jolan07 (70)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
for me....its not that you don't trust your bf...it's just you are afraid to loose him... hey,we're in the same track... but don't you worry coz if your bf do love you...and the both of you are meant to be...so be it....he will be yours....
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Hello marie_cehl! I am a jealous person. I always told my husband about it. But I told him I got jealous because I love him. But then I realized than not because you're jealous you love that person. Jealousy is normal but when it come to the point that your jealousy is over, it only mean one thing "you don't trust your partner"
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
If you know they are just friends and officemates then maybe there are issues of trust there. You may feel like you do, but not trusting him when he is with friends who are girls or getting jealous may be something. I know my man has many friends who are girls and I was jealous at first because they are far better looking than I am, but I know he loves me and I have talked to hi m about it.
@misstoya (12)
• United States
29 Jan 09
No...not at all...in this situation you remind me of myself...It's not that you don't trust him...it's that you don't trust them...you could also be having some type of insecurity (either within yourself...or something stemming from a past relationship...) it also depends on how your man carries himself too...but these things (jealously so on and so forth) happen when you care for and love the person...you want them all to yourself which is normal you should have them exclusively...i don't think you don't trust him...you just love him and don't want to lose him...