Arrange marriage or Love marriage

I want love marriage which is arranged ,becoz there I find true happiness,I dnt want that my parents would annoyed at my love marriage,so with their blessings I want to continue my marriage life

Ya I am agree that arrange marriage is a length process. But to understande each other and their family you really required time. And in love marriage if you get support from both the family then half the proble will be solved. But if you never get the support from you family, their will be problem. I am not talking in terms of monitary problem, but something else. Because mony is not everything in life. Ya it very difficulty to decide arrange marriage is good or love marriage and you one wrong decision may make you guilty for your whole life..

i would choose love marriage. maybe because in the society i grew up in, as well as my parents, that's what we have. i would want to be given the choice, to succeed and make mistakes in my own relationships. and at the end of the day, i would want to say that it was me and my husband who chose each other and not everybody around us. i do hear of arranged marriages becoming successful and that's great! at the end of the day, what makes a marriage work is the two persons involved not anybody else so that's the important thing.

Arranged marriage as a concept is prevalent specifically in India and may be generally in the East and Middle East. This is because the countries here are predominantly religious, or at least, one could say the influence of religion is considerable on people's minds. Yes! Religion plays a very important role in deciding marital relationships. Apart from social stratification, based on financial background that stands out as the most prominent driver of marital decisions anywhere in the world, countries like India have social structures like caste implicitly driving matrimonial decisions. We may want to break-free but often we can't or fearfully we don't break away from some of these structures. One must notice that in an arranged marriage everyone of those considerations like religion,caste, community, linguistic group, social status, and looks and other physical attributes are matched before one embarks on emotions of the couple wanting to come together. Any doubts regarding anything unseen or unknown is taken care of by the matching of horoscopes to boot, though God alone knows how much this helps. But once these are all done the most conspicuous causes for relationships breaking are eliminated. Ask any experienced person - one who has lived in marriage, any kind of marriage, he/she would vouch for what would cement marriages. On the contrary Love Marriages are more gotten into for their romantic appeal than anything like time tested principles stated above. Men and women falling in love tend to look at all that is externally visible, the mental matching is seen to be existing in a make-believe coming together of minds. If necessary both the parties will suppress unfavorable characteristics so efficiently as to let the best ones come through. This make-believe which cannot be lived through life-long, will fall apart soon as the marriage ceremonies, or at best honeymoon phase is over. Give them the 7-year-itch phenomenon of marriage as a benefit of doubt, a disaster could happen anytime after that. I am seeing it happen day in and day out. Love marriage could perhaps work if people take the final step after a match of at least the value systems of the individuals are done. If the couple fall gradually in love as against some Love-at-first-sight kind of knee-jerk decision, there is a likelihood of Love Marriages succeeding. The matching of value system is a must in any modern version of the arranged marriages too. Our marriage was arranged. It was not that I didn't fall in love. I did. And it didn't work out -for one of those famous reasons in India. Today I am a happy man in marriage even though we had to make tremendous adjustments to the extent of vowing never to even think of marriage in coming lifetimes( You see, we are Hindus, and for us life is one big continuum, it starts from the instant Brahma decided that there should be Creation and we must take sojourn after sojourn on this earth to the lifetime when we no longer need to be on an earth-bound existence). That is why this determination of not wanting to marry in future lifetime to us makes as much sense as going for a manageable home loan. If somebody asked me what I wish had not happened, I would say I wish I had not fallen in love and failed. That is my prayer for my future lifetimes also. I am unable to find any learning in my failed love other than feeling rotten about the too many constraints of Indian Marriage. Yet one cannot but however grudgingly, admit that there is unparalleled, wisdom in Arranged Marriages.

Love marriage of course i would want to marry the guy i love most. But if given the circumstances of having arrange marriage, I will cross the bridge when I get there. LOL

Marriage whether love or arrange demand adjustment from both the partners.Both have got their own pron and cons. In love marriage expectations are too much and when they are not met problems start arising. However in arrange marriage since partners don't know each other too well, they don't expect much from each other which might work for their benefit. For a successfull marriage whether love or arrange, it is very necessary that partners understand each other and accept each other the way they are without trying to mould other as per his/her own taste.Trust and respect are the base for all the marriages.Hence my dear friend ..whichever type of marriage you choose just love your partner without conditions . All the best.

Harish its not at all hard to decide whether we will have love or arrange as love is non sense but it is for short period and arrange marriage is also a non sense, it is better we dont marry and stay alone so that we can experience the joy of independence day not only on 26th Aug but every day dude.

I think Love marriage would be better, but arranged marriages can be good too. You would eventually get to know the person and hopefully love them as well.