Why a best friend cant be more than a best friend?
By justpjteb
@justpjteb (183)
United States
January 28, 2009 3:03pm CST
So why cant a best friend be more than just a best friend? Why cant she be your lover too? I have a best friend of mine who I grew up very close to and was a very good friend of mine. She would do anything for me and I would do anything for her. We are very friendly at times and flirt, cuddle and kiss sometimes but when we get on a conversation about being together she says were best friends and if anything happens we will lose our friendship but on the other hand I see us being better lovers because of how close we are. So what do you think about this? Why cant a best friend be your lover and your best friend at the same time. I think our relationship would work out but I dont think it will ever get that far..
6 responses
@lanlan011 (701)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I dont see anything wrong about being more than best friends. I think you should only get serious if you know that it will last between the two of you. If you guys aren't serious and break up it will be sorta awkward. Ive turned some of my guyfriends down because I knew I wasn't serious about them, and the relationship wouldn't last and then our friendship would be different. But its good to date a friend because you know them personally. You won't have to worry about being with some psycho stalker. You just have to weigh the pros with the con. Also make sure your friend wants the same thing too.
@justpjteb (183)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Ya I understand. I think she is just worried about losing me in the end. See I know she is interested because we make out and have came close to sleeping together. SO there has to have some sort of physical feelings.
@lanlan011 (701)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I think you guys have the potential for a great relationship. Just don't focus too much on the physical part than you do the emotional. If you really think it will work out, the try it.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Sometimes trying to have a relationship with a best friend can harm the friendship if it doesn't work out. I have attempted a relationship with a close friend and it harmed the relationship. We aren't as close as we used to be. I think this is what she is fearing right now.
@justpjteb (183)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I am sorry about your friendship.. Ya i agree... I just wish it would work out in the end. I think we would have a great relationship we understand each other so much.
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
29 Jan 09
I dont see any problem with a best friend being a lover .in fact thats the best combination and i suggest u just try to hear her out..maybe shes just too scared that things may go wrong and she cant have u as a fren anylonger.Just give her time and im sure she will respond to u
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
[b]i also had a best friend for 9 years now, though she's already married I still do think that given the chance that the both of us ended up together would be a different story. she knows how i felt about her, and just like you justpjteb, she also said that we are just the best of friends and nothing more.
she had done so many things for me, and me to her.
i guess being so much attach with her, and the fact that we treated each other as family on the first place didn't embrace the chance for us to be together.
i am still happy that we are the best of friend.[/b]
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[i][/i] @jesse022190 (171)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I have to say that they can absolutely be both. My girlfriend is my best friend and has been for 3 years. We have never had a problem in our relationship and everything about it is amazing. I think that best friends make the best lovers. If you can convince her to try it out go for it. I guess it is a little bit of a gamble if things don't work out but if they do both your lives will be better for it.
@justpjteb (183)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Thanks for the advice... Were you best friends before you becoe your gf?
