Does your friend know everything about you?
By iskayz
@iskayz (5420)
Philippines
January 29, 2009 9:49am CST
Hi everyone!
They say real friends can be trusted. Mostly people would consider someone to be their best friend if they can keep a secret. I consider very few people to be my real friends. I have even set a level or limitation to my friends. Some of them knows every member of my family and have been invited in my family gatherings. Others they just know me and some information about my family.
Some of my friends knows the problems I’ve been through but all of them, well I still have secrets to tell or rather not tell any of my friends. It’s not that hard for me to trust my friends it’s just that I believe there are things that I know should be just for me.
What about you? Do you still keep a secret to your friends? Do you believe our friends must know everything about us and that keeping secrets from friends is not a good thing to do?
They say real friends can be trusted. Mostly people would consider someone to be their best friend if they can keep a secret. I consider very few people to be my real friends. I have even set a level or limitation to my friends. Some of them knows every member of my family and have been invited in my family gatherings. Others they just know me and some information about my family.
Some of my friends knows the problems I’ve been through but all of them, well I still have secrets to tell or rather not tell any of my friends. It’s not that hard for me to trust my friends it’s just that I believe there are things that I know should be just for me.
What about you? Do you still keep a secret to your friends? Do you believe our friends must know everything about us and that keeping secrets from friends is not a good thing to do?2 people like this
24 responses
@ryuvinta (153)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 09
hi there, i love making friendship and i love to have many friends, but i just limited my best friend who know me much more than my friends do. they know all about me, and they can keep a secret, my very best best friend is my boyfriend.and he knows everything about me
Keep posting!
@Ephraim123 (274)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
It's good to share your secrets to a friend especially when you really trust the person. It's like you have a walking diary that you can confide on anytime. However, this might turn back to you in a bad way in times of misunderstanding. It might sound like a high school fight but based on experience, it does happen! That's why I always keep something to myself and if it's really personal, I just keep my mouth shut.
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@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
My hubby is my best friend and knows everything about me and I would not hesitate to tell him anything he wanted to know..On the other hand, I dont beleive its a bad thing for friends to not know everything about us. Some things are better left buried in the past with no reason to relive them. People change, times change and why bring up something that we may not be particularly proud of from the past? Do we need to look for acceptance from our friends for what we did back then? I dont beleive so.
Also sometimes we keep certain things from people so as not to hurt them and not just to keep secrets. As they say , some things are better left unsaid and this does not mean you are being dishonest or disloyal.
I too believe that some things are better kept as a secret. I keep mine to keep the harmony in my life.
Keep posting! @misslovelyfiles (250)
• United States
30 Jan 09
No my friends don't know every bit of information about me simply because I never trust anyone fully exempt my husband and my mother. It's nothing against my friends but I just don't like people knowing every single detail about me with the exception of the two people I named above,
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@misslovelyfiles (250)
• United States
31 Jan 09
With my mom I do tell her just about everything , but somethings are awakened to talk to her about to. I'm the same way I can't trust anyone fully especially friends because they are more likely to back stab you.
@anjel016 (329)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Actually its hard for me to trust anyone. I really don't how will they gain my trust. In regards to "friends" I consider a few but I have never considered anyone as my "best"friend. To my friends, I rarely share them anything except maybe my ordinary life experiences. But anything that is out of ordinary, I keep them to myself. Even to my family, I keep a lot of secrets.
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@missjasmine (97)
• India
30 Jan 09
Well though i have lot of friends, there are only very few friends with whom i share all about me..i have only one bst friend who knows about all my past and present...i feel myself lucky to have a friend whom i can trust and share about me.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I can honestly say only one or two of my friends know the real me, everything about me. It is hard for me to really open up to people and there are only a few who have gotten me to open up completely to them. There are some things my friends and I don't discuss because those things are private in nature.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
29 Jan 09
No one knows everything about me. Not my best friend, my husband or my family. It's not that I don't trust them or that I have secrets to keep...I have always been the strong one, the leader...so it's very difficult for me to be completely open with people about things. I trust almost everyone to a limit but, beyond that, I trust no one. It's a form of emotional self preservation for me.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
30 Jan 09
Ya i also have a very special friend who knew everything about me.We have been together for the past 15 years and believe me that we got so used of each other that not even a single day passed by without seeing each other.I used to tell her about everything going on in my life and she also did the same.On personal,professional and family front we had not kept any secrets from each other.
After marriage i have moved on to a new city and my communication with her is not so prompt but we do exchange thoughts and expressions whenever we meet and our friendship is becoming stronger day by day.
I wish her all success in life.
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Communication do plays a big part to keep friendship so keep in touch with each other once in a while.
Keep posting!
@abcnadz (457)
• India
29 Jan 09
i dont say everything about me to my best frined. i used to say. but after a lot of bitter experiences i felt that it's better to keep my things to myself. certain things are meant to be kept as secrets and will always be better if kept so. if you rust your friend more than anything and you find it uncomforatable to keep anything away from them, then may be you can say your things to them.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I used to believe best friends will bring your secret to their graves. I was wrong. I entrusted some secrets to a friend who ruined my family. From then on, I trusted only myself.
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@sravani128 (65)
• India
30 Jan 09
A friend in a need is a friend in a deed that everyone know it friendship is the relationship where they need to share all things....nosecret should be there between them we r 2 friends passed 7yrs till today we are the good freinds.....
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I'm actually one of those ppl who is very open about her life, past, thoughts, issues etc etc....So not only do my close friends know a great deal about me but pretty much anyone who's chatted with me etc knows..
do I think that our friends MUST know everything about us?? Oh my no not at all..I choose to be that way for various reasons but its not a must by any means..
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@swietekfam (363)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Well my husband does not even know everything about me I'm sure. There are things we choose to share and things we choose not to share. Like in any relationship, there are always things to continually learn about each other no matter how trivial or small they are. I have good friends who know alot about me and I them. I can keep a secret and have infact because its a matter of trust.
@emopwincess (194)
• Mauritius
30 Jan 09
well not all the things. there are certain things which you should keep just for yourself.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
no... my bestfriends dont know evrything about me... its not bad to hold up some secrets.. thats your right and thats good to... you must leave something for yourself too., right?!
