Harboring resentment?

I just recently had our daughter, who will be two months old on the 4th of February. When we found out I was pregnant, of course it was a shock to both of us, since we're still only 19, but the way my husband responded to it still bothers me. Sure, everything is fine now, and he's a great father, but he wanted us to give our daughter up for adoption, even though he knew that I would grow attached to her while she was growing. I have at times thought that, of course, it's in the past and I should forget about it, but I don't think that's something as easily forgiven.

I cannot expect HIS forgiveness for things I'VE done without doing the same for him! Unforgiveness leads to bitterness. Bitter people are horrible people to be around!

I will admit that I have harbored resentment in a relationship and I never made a secret of it. The relationship had a rocky start and there was a third person involved. I think part of me "didn't want to lose" and I fought hard for it and ultimately "won" like it was some sort of competition. Problem was, I was treated really badly a lot of the time and I overlooked it, forgave it, pretended it didn't happen, excused it... and, now, I have no idea why. I think a lot of it had to do with my self-esteem being at an all-time low at that time and I just needed it to work out in my favor. But I can tell you honestly that, when you do harbor resentment, it creeps up when you argue, when you feel slighted, when you're unhappy. The resentment becomes dirt that's REALLY easy to throw around. And, for me, the worst thing is to be asked, "when are you gonna get over that?" or "when are you gonna get past that?". My response was consistently (and honestly), "I'm not"

hi bama ... i have not forgiven neither have i forgotten but i am just floating and followinf the current ... cheers