would you trade your happiness for the benefit of someone?
By crazygemini
@crazygemini (129)
Philippines
January 29, 2009 8:44pm CST
are you the type of person who would think first of the happiness of other people before your own? cause at times i feel like im being too focused on others on what they will say or think about how i'm doing so that they will feel pleased about me. but the problem is . . i became unfair to myself for depriving the real happiness that i should have in my life.
pleasing them is often my first step towards their accepting me as a person. buy now i know its wrong.
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6 responses
@intari (190)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 09
Make other people happy is important. But there is the way to make other people happy without sacrificed our own happiness. We can't be another person just to make someone happy. If we do that, we are not ourselves. We must prove to anyone that our choice is good for ourself and we must make anyone proud cos our choice.that's can make people happy also. We can bring/buy/cook what their like either. So pleasing people by be someone or always doing what their said is not good. They can and always accepting us as a person if we always do what our hearts belief and be our selves.Not because we always pleasing them and ignore our hearts.
@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
you're right. its not beneficial to someone who would change themselves for others. thanks intari for the response. i appreciate it.
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@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
thanks so much for the support... i will ... enjoy every moment of my life
@Arjen07 (164)
• Romania
15 Feb 09
Yes I would. But if I think about it I don't really think something like that is possible. If you really wish happiness to someone and you make a sacrifice in order to accomplish that, his happiness will make you happy too and the sacrifice will be forgotten.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
30 Jan 09
To a degree, yes. To a degree, no. If it doesn't really matter all that much to me, but matters to someone else I'm fine with playing alone. In terms of big life choices and principles, however, I would have to say I side with myself over someone else's happiness. That wasn't always the case, though, I had to learn to put myself first.
@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
riht cripfemme! its a case to case basis. and happiness doesn't always mean happiness because of material things you give them but the happiness that is immeasurable.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 09
Hi Crazygemini, it depends on whom that someone is. If it is family, I would definitely say yes. If it's colleagues or friends, I would have to consider. Sometimes thinking too much about what the others say or think may not be beneficial to all parties; and pleasing others while I (or my family) suffer is definitely a no-no to me!
@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
right. and if its a special someone.. same thing.. nver change for something that would only make him/her happy while you struggle to maintain the person that you're really not.
@Ainokea (162)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Heck I know what that feels like. I just think that making other people happy is more important. I often do this with my girlfriend but myself to torcher or things I dont like just to see her happy. I'm sure there is a happy medium. But the first step is recognizing you have a problem.
@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
see... it should be a give and take relationship. its so nice to be with someone you love. its nice to know that there's someone who loves you. its nice to be alive. its nice to be happy with someone you love. yes,, its not always a happy days. there will always be a dark cloud. i like your avatar. it made me realize how fortunate i am to be here living.
@crazygemini (129)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
well you're right. we should make ourself happy first before others. and we can't give happiness to someone if we're just faking the happiness that we should have for ourselves.
