Leniency bringing on more love?

Parents should discipline their children--by that, I mean teach them the correct ways, not beat them or mistreat them. I remember many of my sons' friends wishing their parents were more like me. They said their parents didn't care what they did as long as they stayed out of their way. They pretty much had free rein to do as they wished and they didn't feel their parents loved them. So no, your children will not love you more if you are lenient, they will feel you don't love them.

I think the only thing that being lenient on your child does is teach them to not respect your wishes or rules to be honest. If your child learns that even if they break the rules they don't get in trouble becasue mom is a big old softy they will not learn the rules or respect.

I don't believe that this will happen bamakelly. I have seen my father who gave my elder sister everything that she wanted while us the smaller one was left behind. Now it is us the smaller ones who are giving him things. If your child need something which is essential give it to him/her but never for supply it because you want the child to love you. Love should be unconditional teach your child this and he/she will love you.

Rules are a good thing. They just need to be enforced with love and respect. Being too nice leads to kids who want you to always do this and that for them. Balance is what parenting is about.