What may prompt some married women to have affairs?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (16568)
Philippines
January 30, 2009 7:51pm CST
When you're not in their shoes, you would condemn married women having affairs and even render your harsh judgment upon their indiscretion. But are you in a position to do so? They must have reasons, whether valid or invalid, that had made them commit adultery.
What may prompt some married women to have affairs? The following could be reasons for these affairs:
1.
They wanted to take revenge for the infidelity of their husbands.
This is usually the most common reason why women become unfaithful. When their husbands betray their vows of marriage, they feel extreme pain and sorrow. There is a strong urge for revenge. They want to get back at their spouses in the hope of hurting them as they have been hurt. But of course this would not be the case.
The women succumbing to infidelity will cause a wider rift between relationships and most often, an irreparable damage results to divorce.
2.
They find that the partnership is no longer present in their married life.
Marriage is a partnership. Both spouses should talk when decisions are to be made, especially major decisions. When a woman is left out and feels she no longer matters to the relationship, she will seek that sense of importance someplace else. She becomes vulnerable to temptations from the opposite gender.
Asking the opinion of a partner demonstrates respect for the other. When respect is gone, nothing is left in a relationship.
read more...at http://www.helium.com/items/1270592-why-some-married-women-have-affairs
What about you? What do you think?
2.
They find that the partnership is no longer present in their married life.
Marriage is a partnership. Both spouses should talk when decisions are to be made, especially major decisions. When a woman is left out and feels she no longer matters to the relationship, she will seek that sense of importance someplace else. She becomes vulnerable to temptations from the opposite gender.
Asking the opinion of a partner demonstrates respect for the other. When respect is gone, nothing is left in a relationship.
read more...at http://www.helium.com/items/1270592-why-some-married-women-have-affairs
What about you? What do you think?3 responses
@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
i understand women who betrayed her husband.we dont need to judged them why they do that.you're right.maybe there's a reason why.maybe they wanted to take revenge like what you've said.some husband do whateever they want,they will flirt with other girls and betray his wife.they always say that man is different from women.they will not lose anything even they will have an affair or one night stand with other girls.but what about us?what about women?we also have feelings.we also get hurt.we give our husband everything.our life,our body,our heart but they will do that to us.its so unfair.not only that.they will do something to hurt our feelings.but when we found out that they are having an affair with other girls,they will promise you that they will change.but actually,they will still continue what they are doing.and some husband beat his wife.he's the one betraying but he's the one who have the guts to hurt the wife physically.i know someone who has this kind of situation.women also have feelings.we also have rights.what do they want for us?just accept everything?cry and think about what happened and become crazy.some people will get angry to some women who betrayed their husband but what if we are in that situation.?if we are the ones who was betrayed by our husband?what if we are the ones who was beat,slap and kick by our husband?and theres someone out there who will give us attention,respect,love and care that our husband cant give us because our husband is busy with other girls.
Very important points axlaero, how right you are. That's why we should never be judgmental. I guess you have witnessed such cruelty. Cheers and happy mylotting.
that's a pretty grim picture. Thanks for that vital input. I hope it would not happen to us. Happy mylotting.@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
yes,i witnessed some relationships like that.i really hate guys acting like a good husband and telling the wife tht she's a bad girl and unfaithful.he should think first why his wife do that to him.and if i have this kind of husband who hurt the girl,ill do the same thing.what men can do also girls can do.and i just want them not to under estimate the women in this generation.unlike before,that the wife just keep crying,and become crazy and kill herself.
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
hi jenaisle!
some women i think feel left out of their husband's lives. lives have become boring and routinary. the seek adventure. and when temptation comes along, it is easy to fall into it.
others also seek intimacy, but their husbands are dense. so they try to fill in the void by looking somewhere else. if a friend or co worker shows some interest and special attention, life gets more exciting and this other person fills in the affection that the husband could not or would not want to give.
anyway, the best thing to do is to guard ourselves against temptation. let us pray over our marriages and ask God to be the third person in our relationship.
take care and God bless you!
happy mylotting!
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
.. many situations happen which we don't easily understand.. However, there are always two sides of the story.. Though the woman may find some weaknesses on her husband which prompt her to have another affair, we have to understand that no one is perfect.. However, I won't blame the woman or the man as well.. That is the most difficult part in marriage.. when you have to tolerate and understand the weaknesses of each other and accept them as they are.. I am actually afraid of this one.. I just hope and pray that it will never happen to me or to my husband.. Its easy to say that we should resist temptation.. but if you are already in the real scenario, it is hard to resist.. As of this time, I hope for the best for both of us..
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