why i am worry to be pregnant

Indonesia
January 30, 2009 10:41pm CST
still having those question in my head . six months ago, i almost had a baby but due to pressure in my job, i lost it for three times now, i think its time to get pregnant again but i worry, will i able to care to baby? am i capable to take care my baby due to my working time? geee, it makes me little bit worried. by this discussion, to all of mother in here, please share your joyness when you were in preganancy or having baby especially for the first time. how busy you were? how did you manage it? i need it for my own encouragement. many thanks for sharing with me
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@rsa101 (36618)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Well it is but natural that you feel it that way. But I think if your work is the cause for you not to have a baby maybe you better find a jobe that would allow you to be pregnant. I always admire my older sister that is when she was in her fertile years she was able to bore 6 children all in all. Her work is really stressful as she is working in a hospital as a nurse. She worked in an ER which means a very stressful place for a pregnant woman. But she was able to cope with the work and of course the hospita was considerate in giving her lighter job while she was pregnant. If you can tell that to your employer that they would give you lighter jobs meanwhile you are pregnant you might as well be able to cope with yur job and pregnancy. That is of course you could have your OB gyne to approve of that condition.
• Indonesia
31 Jan 09
i also admire your sister by reading your post. she is really strong woman and i wish that i acn have her spirit. many thanks for your encouragment
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@rsa101 (36618)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Yeah I also admire her strength because she bore 6 children all in all.
• United States
1 Feb 09
I think that you should just keep trying! I was pregnant 5 times before I actually had my first child. I don't know how you feel, but I feel that God has a plan for everyone and it will happen when it's time. You should also talk to your doctor about what you should do. Maybe there's something else going on that you can get help for. I actually got put on bedrest for quite awhile, I thought I would go crazy. But when I saw that wonderful bundle of joy for the first time, it's well worth it to make sure you keep a healthy baby! Keep trying! GOOD LUCK! I'll keep you in my prayers. I know that it's very hard loosing a baby.
• Indonesia
1 Feb 09
whooooa, its really great sharing for me dear friend. many thanks for your praying. yeah, sometimes i also want to have baby soon as possible and make them is really part of my life.
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
1 Feb 09
if your job doesn't allow u to carry a baby to term then maybe u can take some time off, my job was very laborious and they demanded i stop working at 4 mos. i was paid disability.
@youless (109315)
• Guangzhou, China
31 Jan 09
I am so sorry to hear that. Take it easy and try to relax yourself. Everything will go alright. In fact I worked when I was pregnant. I just had the pregnant leave before my labor day. I even studied French and passed the exam at that time. In fact I think it's good to have a job when you are pregnant. As you don't have to focus on your pregnancy all the time and perhaps you won't have uncomfortable feelings from it. Besides, working and studying is good for mom and baby. I know there will be pressure. But everybody suffers different pressures. Just tell yourself that things won't go worse any more. Everything will be alright after some time. I love China
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hi plum! during my first pregnancy, I also had worries, but that was covered up by the excitement that i've felt, especially when i could already feel the movement of my baby inside. As my tummy continued getting bigger, the more i felt the eagerness to see him. I was actually working at that time, but my doctor told me to take a long rest as my body's quite sensitive. I chose to stop working and instead stayed at home, reading some books, strumming the guitar, taking a walk every morning, watching movies, and doing light household chores just to keep myself busy. However, when i reached 7months of my baby, i felt a very different pain, and so i called up one of my close friends, and then moved on to the hospital. In the hospital, the doctor told me that my cervix was already open. But then i told her that my baby was just 7months. I even asked her if it is possible to close my cervix and wait until 9months. Of course, the doctor said no and eventually sent me to the delivery room. At that time, i couldn't feel worry anymore as what i wanted was just to let my baby out as much as i can. After an hour, at last, i could already hear the sound of his sweet cry! As he was just 7months, he was so tiny, but then again, i was incredibly happy to see him and carry him into my arms....:) as for you, you just need to keep on reminding yourself that you can do it. to avoid miscarriage, better ask your doctor whether your body can really manage have a baby even while working. On the other hand, you can actually work even when pregnant. just make sure that you stay positive as your feelings and emotion can greatly affect the state of your baby inside. Good luck!:)