friend copying me. how to stop her?

Philippines
February 1, 2009 12:11am CST
my childhood friend keeps copying me. She buys exactly the same thing i do. Thing is, i want to have my own distinct style and identity. How do i get her to stop without hurting her feelings?
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12 responses
• United States
11 Feb 09
I know someone who's like that in my life. Had actually faced me and told me that she follows everything that I do. Hairstyle, knick knacks, bag, whatever I did, she wanted the same. I knew this girl since I was like 5-6years old. Went to the same school til college. And all I did was ignore her. It stopped when finally I didn't add her in friendster hahaha. And it did hurt her feelings, coz for 2 weeks her request was pending. And I have insulted her infront of the class as well as embarassed her. She pushed me into a corner in which I just never wanted to be in the same room as her. Plus she was having unfair advances in that class. And she knew she couldn't hold a candle to me. So it won't end well, for sure. She probably has a shrine for you, which is totally creepy.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
wow.. you have a fan.. hehe.. buy something she cant afford..
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
whahahaha boang.. whahahaha
• India
1 Feb 09
You tell about your feelings that this thing u dont like and tell her in a friendly manner such that she never feel bad and take u r message seriously.
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
specifically how will i say it? in a way she wont get mad..
@kishusia (1069)
• India
1 Feb 09
Hillary Duff  - Hillary Duff has acted in Disney Channel TV serial 'Lizzie McGuire'.
In one of the episodes of Disney Channel TV serial 'Lizzie McGuire', acted by Hillary Duff, she faces the same problem. A classmate copies her in everything. Lizzie likes it but later it becomes a big problem for her. Watch it if you can. It might help you.
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
hehehe thanx
• India
1 Feb 09
You cant stop her buying same things as like you. I think she likes you a lot. She may be passonate on your style and way of dressing. You two are childhood friends so you cant stop her being a childhood friends because it will hurt her beyond her emotoins.
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
but how will i say to her to stop buying clothes with the exact style and color that am buying? in a nice way..
• China
19 Jun 09
dear trendyclothes: You can train a train a different character and habits,as far as possible the separation of doing things,all done their own,and do not disturb. waiting for your reply!
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Instead thinking of it as an annoyance why don't you find ways to take it positively. Anyways, she is your friend and I guess it simply shows how close is her association to you. People who copy other people's style do it for many reasons. And i'm sure your friend has some good reasons, a feeling of association, sense of belongingness, admiration, can be some of the things why she is following your footsteps.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 09
You can say to her like make a joke that show you dont like she copy your style.Say to her,"I ashamed if anyone has wear same clothes like me", or anything similar words like above.If you afraid hurt her feeling,you can talk or discuss to her that you dont like what she do and talk when nobody around you and her.Good luck.
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Maybe she likes the way you dressed up and she loves thing that you love, Maybe you are her Idol, And maybe she knows the store you always visit to buy your usual stuff, the best thing you can do is to discover some not so common place or store to buy some things without her knowing. And letting her know what you wanted in a nicer way, maybe you ask her to a dinner/ lunch which you could discuss some things in mind and ask her respectfully why she keeps on copying you....Maybe she has a crucial reason why she keeps on doing what you do. Knowing her reason I think is the best way... react nicely and advise her what to do to avoid copying your style. Good luck girl.
@stevelvis (394)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
I'm not sure if it's coincidental. You can test her if she's really copying by buying 'out of this world' items. Wear weird outfit like polka dots buggy pants match with 'barong' tucked in. Why don't you ask her for new styles and fashion so you could reverse the scenario.
@mityang (13)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
that sounds a bit creepy...hehehe...its like in the movie single white female... since your close friends, its alright to talk to her. i think she will understand but surely she will feel hurt at the moment but sooner she will realize that shes unique. maybe you can start letting her identify her likes/interest. then, let her decide for herself & you support her decision. i think this will be a good start.
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
oh i know exactly how you feel. i have this same stuff going on - a very very close friend of mine does exactly what i do. wears what i wear. copies my worldly expressions. copies my actions. one time when we were eating, she put almost 2 cups of rice in her plate. and then she saw me putting just a half cup on rice on my plate. what she did was returned the rice that she got to make it also into a half cup of rice. waaah! she eats what i eat! and it's just so crazzzy! so creepy. so sickening and annoying. i tried talking to her but she denied about the copying thingy. and my other friends confirmed that she was actually positively copying me. hmmmmm. in the end i didn't get to do anything. it was envy and frustration on her part according to my other friends. so i just settled with finding another set of friends and staying away from her. there is no nice way in doing this. but there is a right way. talk to her as a friend. and don't waste time. the longer you tolerate it, the more you might create gaps between you and your friend. =3