Falling for another man that is living with you?

Lampe, Missouri
February 1, 2009 10:46am CST
Ok i have this small problem that could be big if i let it. We have another man living in our home cuase he is trying to get his life back together and get away from all the bad things he was hooked up in. he is very hot. he also has an interst in me though we both have been able to control oursleves and not do anything more then the flirtting. He is not in a relationship though i am married have 3 kids. I don't have to wish to have an affair though at the same time i can't help but wonder what it would be like to have his arms around me and holding and kissing me and not my hubby. I have even had dreams of my hubby and this other man having a 3 some witch is crazy. See i was 18 when my hubby and i got together and he is 17 years older then me. I have never been with another man other then him cuase i was a vergain when we got to gether. we have been married for 10 years this coming march. like all marrages we have had our ups and downs. and i have never strade to some one else. and as far as i know niether has he. but this go around is so tempting and i would do it in a heart beat if i was not married but that one tie has held me back. and that same tie is what has held the other man back cuase we all live in the same house and he and my hubby have been friends for a long time. now this other man is 23 years old and wild, crazy, hot hot hot, and build wow great. while i am married to a big bellied bald man who loves me deaply as i do him. my question is is it wrong that i have these feelings of wonder what it would be like? wish i could be with him once, and the wondering hmm how good dose he kis. am i wronge for wishing and wondering what it would be like with another man other then the man i married?
2 responses
@sammy009 (259)
• United States
1 Feb 09
HI. No its not wrong for wondering what it would be like to be with someone else, I would not go as far as to see what it would be like, it just may ruin what you got. I think it is great of you to be with the same man and the only man. I have a daughter who is with the same guy, she also has not been with anyother man. I am proud of her. She admits to me she wonders and thinks like you are. But in her heart she leaves it like that. If you truly love the man your married to do not ruin it, it only takes one time to loose all you have. You may end up regretting it, and may not ever have what you have now. Temptation do not give into it, unless you want to give up what you have.
• Lampe, Missouri
12 Apr 10
Thank you I am proud to inform everyone that nothing ever happend and he and i talked and he has since then moved out.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
11 Apr 10
While it's normal to find other ppl attractive, acting on it is a whole other thing. You owe it to yourself, your husband and this other guy to sit down and figure out what you want. If you're really happy with your husband then you need to put this other guy as off limits and just be friends. If you really aren't too happy with your husband and really want this other guy, then you need to tell your husband and move on with your life. If you try the new guy out and end up cheating, you'll only be hurting your husband and your children. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]