My Love Online
February 1, 2009 11:11am CST
With the vast increase of new technology that makes internet connection more convenient and even portable, relationships online have as well become widespread. I, myself have also taken a chance - or rather the risk - of falling in love online. My question is, is there really a possibility of finding REAL love online considering that its not only a long distance relationship, but also a romance that may not go beyond on-screen thrills?
• United States
1 Feb 09
Hi there, I say if it feels good to you right now, then enjoy it. You never know what may or may not come of it. All I can really advise is to protect yourself, by that I mean be careful of the information you give online, as sad as it sounds, it is true that all sorts of bad people come online to try and scam people out of something. Don't give away all of your information, hold back on alot of things, If it ever comes to be that you have the chance to meet in person and it leads to more, then is when you should know, in your heart and soul whether to entrust in that person, your dreams, your family life, the things that are important to you. It is very easy to get lost in the cyber world and feel free to say and share all of your inforamtion, but keep in mind, the person on the other end is only the words you see on your screen. Good luck to you and have safe fun online.
2 Feb 09
Hi irisisflower! Thanks for that sound advice. Yes, I agree that one shouldn't give pertinent information to someone whom he/she just met online. In my case, my so-called love online is a childhood friend whom I had a crush on more than a decade ago, and I haven't seen him since his family moved to another country. Of course, I'm still open to the fact that we're all grown up now and he can still be considered a stranger in some way. Yet, I remain hopeful that things would work out pretty well, although my past long-distance relationship turned out to be a failure. =( thanks again..
• United States
2 Feb 09
You are more than welcome and I am sorry to hear about your "failures" but how about you start seeing them as stepping stones to where you need to be and who you need to meet. Try to keep a positive attitude, hard as it may seem, about your experiences, be gratreful for what you do and do not have, this helps you be at peace with yourself, it also helps you nurter your inner child, slowly but surely you will be ok with whatever life throws your way. I do wish you luck with your current situation, If nothing else I hope you two rekindle that friendship and as you said, now that you are both grown up, maybe it will be easier to express yourself with all that "elementary crush syndrom" HAHAHA God bless
2 Feb 09
Thanks! That is exactly what I'm trying to do.. Getting into the relationship was the most difficult part, as my past experience kept tormenting me. However, I have learned to convince myself that they are two totally different people and that the situation may be different as well. So far, things have been well, distance has not proved to be a threat in most ways. Other than the fact that I sometimes wish he could be right beside me, I am pretty much contented with the way things are. I am actually quite happy about the freedom that the both of us get to enjoy, and whatever we both bring into the relationship is given freely, with no obligations and not much expectations. =) I will keep in mind the things that you have advised though..and yes, I have been looking forward to seeing him again after 14 long years. haha! Happy lotting^^
6 Feb 09
Hi gawrdy00z_abby, I can say that the success of having relationship online works depends on both parties.If both of you will spend time knowing each other and learn to trust then I can say that it will works. I have also a relationship online. Well, it never ever really entered my mind. But as the saying goes "Loves comes the least you expected it." We became friends first. We share our days through chatting or talking over the phone. I got some reminders from friends to be careful and not share anything personal to a person you only meet on the internet.They got a point there and I respect it. I introduced him to my family by means of the cam. As months pass by, I just notice myself falling in love with him.As for me having relationship online is difficult. There are moments that somehow I want to give up on us no matter how I love him. But everytime I see how he shows his love and care for me and my family, I feel annoyed with myself for being so selfish. I know he is finding it difficult also but he is also fighting with the situation. I just keep on praying for us to be strong and be patient always. As of now, he is planning to visit me here in the Philippines. We are also planning of getting married someday. I am no longer thinking of giving up on us because I want our love to last. I just stick on our plans and I can say that it is our plans that motivates me to be strong and keep holding on. All we have to do is be patient and keep the trust with each other.