Would you ever go back to an ex who cheated on you?
@gAwrdyOOz_aBbY (36)
Philippines
February 2, 2009 12:42am CST
I was just wondering if any of you would ever go back to an ex who begs you that he/she wants you back after he/she has cheated on you? Do these exs even deserve a second chance? Would you ever find it in your hearts to forget all the hurt and love them all over again?
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
2 Feb 09
well my hubby came back to me when we were boyfriend n girlfriend...i cheated on him in h.s. after 10 months of being together n we got back together after 1 yr. and a half...but me, i wouldn't not now..not now that we're married with kids..in h.s. maybe.
@gAwrdyOOz_aBbY (36)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
well i guess when you really love someone, you'd always find it in your heart to forgive.. the problem starts when you think they really forgave you, but never stopped bringing the past up every time you fight. Forgiveness should be wholehearted. I think it is so in your case, now that you're married and have kids.. I can say I am happy for you.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
2 Feb 09
thanks...the good thing is he doesn't bring it up...i think he realizes we were just high school kids. but i know what u mean forgiving doesn't mean u forget and that's why if it happened to me now...i couldn't be with him because i wouldn't forget.
@gAwrdyOOz_aBbY (36)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Oh, I have one question, though.. What if he does cheat on you now, and you get so angry that you tell him you can't be with him no more, and he finally brings up what you've done before, saying that he forgave you so why can't you forgive him too.. how would you handle that, then?
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Hello THere!
No, I would never go back with an ex boyfriend who cheated on me. I can say that because I have done exactly like that few years ago. I had a boyfriend and we dated for like 6 months. He cheated on me for seeing and dating a girl. They watched movies and dated for couple of times. I was feeling something was wrong but since we were studying in different school, i washed away that intuition until one day he admitted that he is seeing another girl. We broke up after that. Few months after breakup, he insisted on getting back together but i refused. I already forgiven him but that was it. I could not bring the old flame back after cheating on me. For me, I deserve a man who loves me and faithful to me as I am to him. And fortunately, I have that man in my life right now.
THank you for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and Have a great day! Cheers!
@gAwrdyOOz_aBbY (36)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Forgiving doesn't mean you'll put yourself at risk of getting cheated on again. Of course we can't help but feel doubtful probably all the time if we take them back, right? Even if he's sorry and doesn't do it again, I think it'll be hard to get rid of those ghosts in our heads that he might just do it all over again! Yes, we don't deserve anything less than a man who has been and will always be faithful. But then again, we never know. =) thanks for the rep. Happy lotting^^
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Actually this kind of situation is a case-to-case basis. It depends really on so many factors. For some they would take back their exes for a reason only they could undestand but for me irregardless of how happy or miserable our relationship is, or how long or short we've known each other, how well he treats my family and vice versa and for so many conditions I would still NOT accept my ex back who cheated on me. Cheating is a question and an issue of trust with your partner and faith in your relationship and once this trust is broken or in any way soiled or taken for granted then that's it, it is not worth it to take another chance with that kind of person. Some would say otherwise but honesty is a very big deal to me when it comes to having a commitmment with someone. without trust there is no respect, and without respect love is impossible and without love a relationship would be useless. That's my opinion and my stand on this stuff, I'm not imposing anything and I respect everybody's concern... happy lotting ^-^
@gAwrdyOOz_aBbY (36)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Thanks for your response. I totally agree with you. Love cannot stand alone and it requires the other things you have mentioned for it to even live up to its name. Love isn't love without respect, trust, and commitment. I, myself, will never take back an ex who has cheated on me no matter how sorry he is. I still believe that if people love someone, they wouldn't let themselves give in to the cheap temporary thrills of attraction. But of course, should anyone here have a different opinion, I totally respect that. =) Happy lotting to you as well. ^^
@yina24 (358)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
There are always chances... but we have to think of our own actions.. does he deserve to be loved the second time around? as the song goes, Love is sweeter the Second time... we're not a perfect human being.. we can still gain mistakes even if we promised we'll never do that again.. love includes forgiveness... but not to the point that you're fooling yourself or let's say you're just letting to be fooled coz you love him that much.. that's super dooper a crazy thing to do.. you still need to set limitations for such mean actions of your ex.. :)
