Long distance love, can you handle it?

United States
February 2, 2009 9:53am CST
I know many people dont believe in long distance relationships and I used to be one of them. But, since me and my boyfriend have been together we have had much distance in our relationship. He works on the road so he is gone often. At first it was kind of hard, then it became exciting. Because everytime we got to see one another it was twice as great. Now that we have a baby though it is a little tough having him away but still exciting to see him when he come home. We have made it work for 2 years now. So what are your veiwpoints on long distance relationships? Are you in one now? Any tips you would like to share with other bloggers on things you can do to make it work?
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39 responses
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
I always want my boyfriend to be with me always or beside me whenever I need him. Talking to him over the phone or chat will not really comfort me so If he leaves me and travel to another country I do not think I can stand without him. He is my strength.
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• India
3 Feb 09
you are about the comfort part and strength part but dont you think so that being dependent mentally on any one make one hurt a lot without that person. actually i understand about your view because i went threw this situation earlier in my life just 6 month back but now i dont want even a single person in my life on which i will be dependent. best of luck for your future
• India
5 Feb 09
Hello my dear codiecoco Ji, I am fully understanding your feelings, as a Ex soldier's wife, while my hubby was away serving in field are, and I had all my three children to be taken care-off by myself, it was very hard time for me. But as he used to visit on monthly basis, we used to have evrytime new relation and eagar to meet. It is a strange feeling, undescribable. may God bless you and have a graet time.
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• Goose Creek, South Carolina
4 Feb 09
I don't think a long distance relationship is feasible for me. I mean, talking with the person you love is easy enough over the phone, and they've got webcams if you want to see them. The problem is touch. Sure, they've got technology for this too (go to http://www.cutecircuit.com/projects/wearables/thehugshirt/ to see), but there's something special about being near the one you care about that I don't think any technology can really help.
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• Singapore
2 Feb 09
i'm one of those who can't handle a long distance relationship. Before i marry my husband, he was in a different country and we had problems communicating with one another. during then, internet was not widly use. The mind will start to wonder and we start doubting each other and wondering what the other party doing. if my husband is posted to another country, i think i will just quit my job and go with him or ask him to change job.
• United States
3 Feb 09
well yea keep it up
• United States
20 Feb 10
I met my husband online in the a game room. We had dated for nine months before I moved out here and dated in person for a year and a half before we got engaged. We were engaged a year and a half before we got married. We were together three years total. We lived 2000 miles away from each other. He lived in Idaho and I was in California. I moved to Idaho because California was expensive and he could not move because he was caring for his elderly mother and he was working. I was looking to attend college and was not working at the time. Long distance relationships can work if you are both willing to make them work. I takes a lot of trust and communication to make them work. I wish you all the best.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Hello codiecoco! I have tried being in a long distance relationship twice and well, I was not that lucky. Not that I am saying that such kind of relationship will not work. It might just for others. But not for me. I probably was not really ready for such kind of relationship. When it failed before, I said, I will not be in one ever again. After a while, I was again. But then again, it failed.
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
7 Feb 09
The best advice I have is open communication. If things start to feel bad, talk about it. It won't get better if you keep it to yourself and talking about it helps. I would also suggest talking as often as you can to keep the commnunication open and active and alive. It gets hard not to be able to have some contact with the other person. I met a guy online several years ago and then he went to bootcamp and it was murder. His dumb butt used to sneak to call me and I was so afraid that he would get caught, but he got a medical discharge, and wasn't gone that long. Now we aren't even together, but it was hard not being able to talk to each other after we had talked all the time. Good or bad, you need to talk to each other.
• Malaysia
4 Feb 09
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;).
• China
4 Feb 09
I was touched by your love
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
4 Feb 09
I can't handle the long distance love.it will have many problem.who can stay with me when i feel lonely.Especially when you got sick,you hope your partner come to stay with you.But it is impossible.he can't come because of the long distance.so i can't handle.
@hmkoct5 (2066)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I was in a long distance relationship for three years while my fiance was in the Navy. It was quite hard, but we made it work. The only problem was that we both changed during those three years. When he came back, things were different. I don't think we ever truly adjusted to each other. We were married for two years and then divorced. Things are a little different now because technology makes it so much easier to communicate. Back then, we didn't have cell phones and the internet. I think it might be easier to stay in touch now.
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I believe that anyone can do it but they have to set their mind on it before they attempt to stay true. I know I can do it. My husband and I lived so far apart when we were dating. It was hard but doable.
@Christoph56 (1507)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
I seem to be different then most people, because I actually prefer long-distance relationships. Right now, my girlfriend lives about 3000 miles from me. I've had girlfriends from my city, and girlfriends who live in other countries, but the girls I've found long distance are just far better then the ones I settle with in my city. I haven't had any real problems with us changing to be different, either. Me and my girlfriend have actually become a lot closer, and our lives relate so much to eachother, because we always enjoy what the other finds. Then, in the times that we travel out to see eachother, it's like a dream come true. I get to go and visit a tropical city, so much different then my own, and experience a new culture, while I have my beautiful girlfriend with me that I'm madly in love with. It makes for the greatest experiences. Another thing that I prefer in a long distance relationship, is that it's not a requirement to be with eachother all the time. I have a real need for time when I'm alone, and with my girl online, I can spend hours with her, then when I want to be alone, all it takes is saying bye on MSN, and I have everything to myself. It works out very well for me. Long distance relationships just have a lot of Pros to me, and not as many cons as close relationships do. I'm a different kind of guy, I know that, but when something works for you, you just gotta do it.
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
3 Feb 09
i dont know about that cause its difficult to have long distance love. long distance relationship is need care n share , attention, talk each other n power of love. for me its difficult to have it.
@dynes101 (11)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
Long distance relationship kinda hard but just hold on and keep an open channel of communication...
• India
3 Feb 09
Let us take an example of marriges.according to year 2001 surveys only 5% of love marriges are successful.
• India
3 Feb 09
i m not believe on long time love because when both the people known each other they are getting bored.
• India
3 Feb 09
love is nothing but only and aatraction.we are in love with one who can do love with us.thats why the love is only about attraction.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
in reality, long distance relationships is very hard specially if you can't do without the other and each one is dependent on the other but if you are a couple who understands one another and supports one another then it would work. patience, understanding and trust is the key.
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
yeah having a long distance relationship is a pretty exciting one but it is also true that it is so hard to maintain one.