If you had picked out an adoptive family for your unborn baby and..
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
United States
February 3, 2009 4:54pm CST
If you had picked out an adoptive family for your unborn baby and the couple broke up and were starting to get a divorce before the baby was born would you still let one of them adopt it? i mean a lot of people only want couples to adopt their baby so im sure this would be a deal breaker to some people since it would be a broken home..
would you decide against going with the adoption if they showed marital problems or had announced they were getting a divorce? or would you still give the baby to one of them (or both i guess sharing custody im not sure how that works) because it was already agreed upon? 50% of marriages fail anyways so its not like its a sure thing in the long run if you thought you found the happiest couple!!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
there are laws to follow and single people cannot adopt legally in many places.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
4 Feb 09
i know a lot of places wont help single people or they make them wait twice as long before giving them a kid
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@juveriam786 (111)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Wasn't this what happened in the movie JUNO. It was a good movie did you see it? You should. Anyway, in the end Juno let the lady adapt her baby...and it worked out. As long the one who wanted to stll adapt could give the baby a happy and halthy envorniment to growup with, there should be np problem. Its better than breaking up after the baby is a little older.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
4 Feb 09
haha i forgot to mention that was where i got the idea.. i watched it yesterday and it made me start thinking about it
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I think it would depend on the situation. I wouldn't give my baby to both of them if I knew they were getting divorced. The idea of giving a child up for adoption is for them to have a better life. Putting them right into a divorce probably wouldn't be the best life I could give them.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
4 Feb 09
If given the chance to know the couple as well as in the movie JUNO then yes I probably would have gone through with the adoption. Otherwise, I probably would consider finding another family. You are right that many marriages fail anyway, but assuming that giving the child up would be to provide it with a better life than I was able to give it, I would want it to go to a "family" to begin with in hopes for a fighting chance.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Feb 09
unfortunately a lot of women dont get to know the couple that well with to begin with
@ivan2000bd (1009)
• Sweden
8 Feb 09
monlight nice post. i think the film JUNO had the same idea. isnt it ?
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
8 Feb 09
thats what got me to thinking about it.. i had watched a lot of movies and documentaries on adoptions and stuff but none of them covered things like that happening
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Feb 09
That's a difficult question to answer. I'm not really sure what I would do. Some people can raise a child together rather well even if they aren't living together and continue to be married. I haven't seen the movie you speak of but sounds like it could be interesting.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Feb 09
its an ok movie.. it at least ended well and not predictable so that made me happy lol
