Naughty or Nice??

United States
February 3, 2009 8:38pm CST
I have been talking to some of my friends about love and relationships. And have heard from most of my guy friends, that when a man gets married and has children, he no longer wants his wife to be a "Lady in the Streets and Freak in the Sheets". He now wants a wholesome woman that does not do the things that the other single women would usually do. I am inclined to believe this, since my romance has faltered with my husband. If I try to do the things I used to do before we got married 4 years ago, he tends to shy away, or do those things but later be distant. So what is the real situation? Is a wife just supposed to be Nice? Or can we be wholesome and a little Naughty for our husbands too?
4 responses
@ellovire (409)
4 Feb 09
yes i have also heard about this, that husbands tend to expect their wives to be nice, serious, prim and proper. but you know what, me and my husband totally disagree with that. there are times that i will be serious and nice like every model wives should be, but in private, when me and my husband are all alone, we get naughty too. it is something i will not forego. i still tease him with lingerie and all, and he likes it. most of the time i surprise him with some naughty activities. this is one way to keep the romance and fire alive. i act like a mistress to him. but hey, that's when we are alone. if we are in public, we act prim and proper.
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• United States
4 Feb 09
Well, I will just have to keep doing what I am doing. Being that lady in the world eye and his Lady Love in his eye. Hopefully the stigma isn't true and things will heat up again!
@vishkris (205)
• India
5 Feb 09
khools..thnx for u r ideas..i ll keep these in my mind..i am a bachelor..lol..i ll use these in future with my wife..lol
• United States
4 Feb 09
I think you should sit down with your husband and talk to him, voice your concerns. My hubby and I sat down and had a heart to heart and I was amazed at his thought processes on something, they were so different from mine and very different from what I was expecting him to say. People do change over time and their needs and desires change too, but that doesn't mean that you can't make your relationship great for both of you. I think the key to any relationship is open lines of communications, especially in regards to the more intimate side of our spousal relationships. If you don't have those open lines, you can't just look at him and say, "Hey you know what would be hot" or "Hey you know what really turns me on" and he also can't share what he's thinking with you. We have had our share of problems and and some of them have been doozies but we have always tried to have a give and take in the bedroom so that way we both feel like we have gotten what we need. I have never been afraid or embarassed to say I want to do this or try that. I think you have to work out a balance
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• United States
14 Feb 09
Thank you for responding April, and I have to say I agree with everything you have said. I may have to print it out and put it somewhere that I can look at it and remember that there MUST be a balance and that communicating with one another is key. I have tried the whole "You know what would be hot" and you're right, if the lines are not open it won't work. And I ended up getting hurt because he couldn't reciprocate my enthusiasm. I am going to copy your response and send it to him because I really did think it was great! Thanks
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I guess this never applied to me and my husband, because when we get the chance to try new things we are. When we first got together we never really went outside of our element, we stayed in that comfort zone, and now he's always asking if i'd do this, or that... we are honest and open with each other and i think that seems to help. We try new things together. I think some men seem to show that they want their wife to be prim and proper, but they are secretly wanting them to just loosen up and get crazy... lol...
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• United States
14 Feb 09
I am just going to have to break my husband of his shy bones when it come to the marriage bed! I mean, I like to get a little wild and crazy and love the fact that at face value, NO ONE would expect that of me! It's so much fun to be a lady in the world's eye but the woman your man desires and lusts after when no one else is looking! He never asks me questions but I ask him a lot about his past. Eventually we will even it out! I will have my way! lol
4 Feb 09
I don't think so. Sometimes, men doesn't want their to change and remain like they when first met. We always want to have some unusual stuff to break the monotony.
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• United States
4 Feb 09
Hmmm... that's what I was thinking too.