Or I Will Kill You!!!

I have heard and seen parents treating their kids poorly. And I have to be the first to admit that I don't always have patience for my kids either. However telling a child that you will kill them is way beyond discipline. I'm sure there are many parents out there capable of such actions and had she been heard by a social worker or law enforcement officer her child would be going home with someone else and she would be trying to prove to a court of law that she deserves to have him in her custody.

let me first say that the day’s not far when she will hear the same words spoken to her from her son’s mouth and only she would be to blame for it. Now, yes I believe in spanking and even beating my only child but never in public. It’s a rule between us that publicly (even at home in front of strangers) we take care of each other’s respects. So if I tell him gently (even whispering) not to do something, he is expected not to do it, even if he doesn’t like it…we can always talk it over at home. Seeing parents mistreat their children…yes I have seen it. Once I went to my son’s school for the mid-term results and I saw quite a few parents, with reports in one hand, literally dragging on their child after them, all the while rebuking, shouting, demanding explanations for the results and threatening of more severe punishment, once back home. I felt so sad…the kids were say 5 or 6 or 7yr old. There are so many things which contribute to a child’s performance, not least being their mood at that particular time of writing the exam. Treating them in that manner does little to boost their confidence or the will to do better.

She did notr mean it litteraly. My mom said it all the time and we knew what it meant. It meant we will never see the light of day we will be on punishment forever. And I think people who call on people over a something they said is being nosey and petty. If u do not physically see real abuse or neglect like the childe being starved or kicked and punched then it is not abuse. Some kids need to be threatened and scared. If people do not believe me go get your phone book right now and call juvenile hall and ask them how many kids are in the place and are they up to capacity.. Then ask them how many children are on probation due to the fact that they are over crowded. I think time outs are harsh mental abuse because it teaches a child that disipline is easy and a joke. but like everyone else on here its JUS MY OPINION.

Hi, Yeah i think children do need spanking when they do anything wrong but telling them that there going to kill them lol i think thats going a bit too far!!

Hi, I 've many such experiences.may not be such extreme language...but surely Harsh,that too in Public. We eventually forget that not only our children but also the gathering take pity on us.... =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

that is just beyong horrible... *sighs* what the h is wrong with people these days..?

I am all right with a slap on the rear end, and a spanking because the kid ran across the parking lot and could have been hit by a truck. I am however upset with a parent using toilet language as well. We are supposed to be better then our children. Why teach them the language of low class people? And threatening to kill a child. That is not right. I have never seen a parent mistreat their child, usually they take him to the car.

i was spanked as a kid too. but my parents never slapped me in the face and never in front of other people. how will the child know he is wrong when all his mom did is pulled him aside threw a curse word and threatened to kill him. ofcourse children don't know any of these things and parents are there to guide them! no child is born perfect! what not instead tell the child "you scared me, don't go round around again, i was scared you might get hurt. that's wrong" or something like that. so many people are trying to have a kid but can't. but some have kids but take them forgranted. i am equally scared what happens to the child at home. when his mom can do that in front of other people, how much more if no one's looking right?

This is nothing when compared to the people staying just in the opposite appartment of mine, in fact, they have only one daughter who was born after 9 years of their married life when they thought they would never have children again, the father is good, but the mother tortures the kid so much that i even thought of complaining in the police station nearby, she is a good lady, but she is so very short tempered that she cannot even stand a little foolishness of her daughter, she wants everything to be under her control, there is not a single i dont hear that getting beaten up adn cry, you know how old she is, she is just 2-and-a-half, could u believe, i have a daughter of the same age too, i have many a times advised not to do so...she listen to me so good that she is immdtly going to follow it, but again she gets back to square one, poor child, they have shifted their house now, donno what that poor child is going through now...one more thing is, when i spoke to her about it, she said that she used to get beaten up by her parents when she was young, especially by her mother a lot, in order to get disciplined, it worked well for her and that she is following the same with her daughter now, you know what, noe the grandmother of that child is so loving and caring, whenever she is around, she does not let her daughter beat her greatdaughter....and one more important thing is that the small girl has become more and more stubborn and adamant now than before...

Hi, I've seen parents at both ends of the spectrum. One mother slapped her daughter (early teen) in public. Another time, I heard a father shouting @$%& at his son (9 or 10 years old). All this is very embarrassing for their children! And then this couple who recently visited us with their 2 kids - they ignore, pretend or just don't care when their kids are misbehaving - running and screaming aloud, throwing pebbles at the neighbor's dog, digging out our cupboards and closets! I simply don't know which is worse!

I think we have all told our kids off in public and gone a bit far but I agree telling them you are going to kill them is a step to far.

Heyya singlemommy. I have seen parents go to far in public. I know children need to be corrected but sometimes parents should be too. I hate it when I see people lose their tempers and verbally abuse a child. I usually go out of my way to look at them like they are crazy where they can see me.lol I haven't said anything to anyone as of yet but there have been times I wanted too and before my life is over and I get old and grumpy..I may do it.lol I'm almost old and grumpy enough now. I do try and keep my nose in my business but sometimes parents are terrible with their children in public..imagine what it must be like at home for that child.

I have seen and heard parents do this as well. I would have reported her. Although i agree with your stance on spanking (as i too was a spanked child and turned out better than all my friends that weren't spanked as children) but telling your children that you will kill them is extreme no matter what the situation. She should have explained to the child that he could HAVE BEEN killed by doing what he did and she never would have wanted that at least i hope that she wouldn't have.

yes, I've seen a lot of parents like that. it's just that it's not appropriate to meddle or say something to them. This is traumatic for the child: having been almost hit,embarrassed by his mom and threatened to be killed. Poor boy!

That was pretty bad of her, but under the circumstances, maybe she was so shaken by what had happened, she just let her temper flare. Im sure she did not mean it and very often we too say things at the spur of the moment that we should not have said and repent later. I guess it is a case of shaken nerves only. It was her love for the child that made her so mad. Its worng, I know, but I would forgive her if I knew under what circumstances she said those words. I may be wrong, but I am a softie at heart.

That is just wrong! You shouldn't say that to anyone especially to a child. Even if you don't mean it literally. I can just hear Dr Phil now.

yes I do and I even heard some who said same thing as what you heard but I think they just say it out of anger. They did not really mean to kill their child. That is just ridiculous for a mother to kill her kid for misbehaving. She should tell him the right words for him to realize his mistake but not threaten him to be killed.

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Spare the rod spoil the child.Now I don`t know what the situation was. So, I can`t say if she meant it or not. Judging by what you said i think it was said out frustration because the child took off running in the street. Could she have used a better choice of words to get her point across yes.

Wow. This shocked me. Being upset isn't an excuse to let your child think you can kill him. I agree with reprimanding children for their mistakes, but not like this. This is child abuse. I was never even spanked by my parents when I was growing up (but I don't have anything against spanking because it really works for most kids) and I can't imagine how I would feel if they had told me they'd kill me. Kids should know when they did something wrong, but they parents should never instill in their child's minds that their lives are of little value. This is so horrible.