He waited for only 30 mins and he got crazily overly mad!

@Ysabel (1201)
Philippines
February 4, 2009 5:08am CST
Okay, i was late. 30 mins late on the agreed time. But, before that, i asked him earlier, and repeatedly asked him if we are leaving right away. And he said NO. So i was taking my time, working slowly, so that i will not be waiting for him long. He said 8pm. I calculated my work and my time for the 8pm. At 10 minutes before 6pm, he advised me that we will leave at exactly 6pm. I said, i can't but he said we have to. Imagine me rushing everything and all that, just to leave right away, but it still took me 30 mins to finish last minute job at hand. He flared up, impatiently waiting and we ended up in a big fight!
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20 responses
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
i hope everything is well and okay and better by now. don't worry about it. im sure everything will be better as the days go by. you just have to talk about it and calm down and patch things up. cheers!
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hi maria. so far everything's okay now. i know everything lately has been very complicated and in fact, i am at lost by now and don't know what to do anymore. you know how hard it is. i tried to hang on every minute of the day. when i say its okay for now, but we will never know until when. there is no forever here, as you see. and it s-u-c-k-s.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
i am trying to understand him though. its giving him freedom and happiness and if i don't, then i will only be very selfish! i don't want that.
@youless (98997)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear that. Although you were late, but you didn't do it on purpose. I think he should understand it rather than be mad at you. Actually you could make it on time. But just his schedule changed and changed and therefore you couldn't adjust to it. Please don't feel so bad. It's not your fault.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
thanks youless! you know what, your post made me feel better at that time ... though i was not just able to respond to your comment right away. i know it was not my fault, but somehow, with the turn of events and the heated arguments, everything went upside down.. you know how it is during actual quarrel.. you said things that will hurt each other, right? i am just glad that everything is okay... for now.
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
5 Feb 09
That's wrong of him, and he has got no right to be mad at u.. For the time given and agreed upon is at 8pm, thus it's natural for u to take your time to finish up your things.. He's in the fault because he changed the timing suddenly just to suit himself and did not sapre a thought for u, just because he dun wanna wait.. He's just too selfish, and u should not even bother to explain to him.. Because if u were to do the same thing to him, he will still be blaming u, and not himself..
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
hi Kun2349. it's been a while and i have not responded to your comment here. I sure did read it at that time and very appreciative of your kind words it sure did help me make feel better. the thing is, we already broke up.. it just didn't work out. i made a separate discussion, here's the link (not a referral link) http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1939783.aspx he's not perfect, but i am not perfect too. but its just that, i am now at lost.
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
14 Mar 09
Oh no..That's sad to hear.. Nothing is really perfect in this world.. SO, dun be too upset or blame yourself for the breakup.. If it's meant to be yours, it will be yours ^_^ He din know how to treasure u, and it's his loss.. Get over it, and find someone better ^_^
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
hi there again! yep, i am moving on. i don't want to waste my time anymore for someone who doesn't want me. easier said than done, but i know i can make it. time will heal all wounds. ei, good for your, you don't have problems like this one (i just remember now your discussion about being free!)
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@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
I'm sorry to hear about that Ysabel. Just relax for a while, then try to talk to each other. I'm sure you guys can work this out.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
thank you donsky. somehow, writing here in mylot helps me. yeah, we need to calm down and we're not seeing each other yet so we can have a breather. but i am getting tired of his bad temper. really.
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@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Yeah, it feels better to let it out.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
everything is okay for now. thanks again, donsky!
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• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hello Ysabel. its just a matter of misinterpretation. maybe both of you are just exhausted physically in the day's work, and it all heated up! nothing beats talking it out, explaining you side and listening to his. i am sure everything will eventually be fine and you can start things in a clean slate. just be patient in explaining your side and do not raise your voice to assert your side. be soft spoken and try to really dig his side too. cheer up!
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
thanks ethan. i am not so sure. everything gets so complicated at a time. sometimes its okay now and the next day its not! its giving me headache! well, i am sure i am giving him headaches as well! huh! .. thanks for the comforting words.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 09
that's very normal in a relationship Ysabel. There's always up and downs. I mean you cannot be smooth and happy all the time right? There are sweet moments, but if its going to me all sweet moments, the relationship with surely be dull! You also have to experience that, to be able to learn the exact character and attitude of you partner and if you will still accept the other person, no matter what. that is part of loving, and giving love, and in being in a relationship. you learn form each other's mistakes. and the most important thing is, you will realize within yourself, how willing are you to accept him, despite of that.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
well, in that sense, you are very right. but you also have to realize that in a relationship, its not healthy when you are always fighting. one of you sill surely get tired and fed up. there should be balance and all. it fighting is more than the sweet moments, that would definitely be a checker.
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• India
4 Feb 09
That sounds mighty unreasonable! How are things now? Did he make it up to you? Its alright even otherwise, Ysabel sweety. If he didn't make it up to you, he will soon.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
thank you, cursedsoul. hhmmm, actually, we haven't sort things out yet. there's no effort from him yet. would you believe that?!!!! (sigh)
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i don't know if you still remember this discussion, but guess what? its over. he just broke up with me and i am shattered! here's the related discussion (not a referral link) http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1939783.aspx
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@shamzy18 (2319)
4 Feb 09
Well i guess it was his fault! otherwise you wouldnt have taken so long. guys always think girls take long.. this is a good example where girls only take long because of the guys fault!!
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
yeah, i think so. he was the one who changed his mind, right? do you have similar experience, shamzy?
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@shamzy18 (2319)
4 Feb 09
lol well when i tell my brother to pick me up from places and i wait inside and he gets irritated when im not outside even if it was only 5 minute wait! My dad doent mind but my brother daym he has no patience i get scared lol
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@pauline08 (101)
• China
13 Mar 09
I think you both should cool down and understand each other. And you should have own principles. If you can do, just say no.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
hello pauline... there's no use anymore. as we already broke up just yesterday. too bad!
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@cathya (704)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
hmm i guess guys are really like that LOL they want everything in a rush since it happened already and i guess both of you were not on the mood to listen and understand each other just let it pass and continue your life as for now. but take time to talk about this issue again, if both of you were ready to listen and understand each other. cheers!
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
hi cathya, everything's in reverse now. instead of patching up, our releationship took a full turn. i created a new discussion about this one. here's the link (not a referral link) http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1939783.aspx anyways, thank you for responding at that time which i certainly need one. i was not able to respond to it right away, but when i read your comment at that time, it certainly helped my feel better.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
Hehe, typical scenario. Well i don't think it's your fault because he didn't tell you that you have to leave 2 hours earlier than the agreed time. Was it really something important for him that he flared up? I don't think he'd get mad like that if it's just a routine. I got mad at my first girlfriend because she made me wait for an hour. I got mad because she made up a lousy excuse. I'm just glad i ditched her 3 times until she gave up lol. That's when i was free from her possessive ways.
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
hello modstar, you seem to be a nice guy until that 2nd to the last line! he he he just kidding!
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
6 Feb 09
Wow, If he change the time, than he have to wait. If you have a time to ajust, than you do what you need before you go. But since he change the time you can not just ajust that and drop everything to be on time. That is not what he should expect of You. He gave you a specifik time and change it, than he should understand it woudl take time for you to ajust it. He sound like a child not getting his way. I am sorry to hear that from an adult. That is anoying that he did not understand your position. Hope he will get over it.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
hello my friend anetteh, how are you? i know i should have replied to this sooner. your comment definitely made me feel better at that time. but only for a while. because finally, we broke up already. he ended up the relationship six days ago, and there's nothing i can do about it now but to face it and move on. (easier said that done).
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
sometimes men act like children. when both of you have calmed down, ask him what bothered him that night. if he says something like "because you're late!" tell him your side of the story something like i'm sorry i was late but i never expected the time me moved earlier from what he previously said at 8pm. tell him that you were not through with your work that time and you tried your best to finished up. tell him that you'd greatly appreciate it if in the future that it would greatly help you if he doesn't change times anymore. so that you won't make him wait. tell him you never deliberatlely did this. and that you didn't want to hurt him. let's see you he reacts. argggh.... men! lol!
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
hello makeupbycher, things are certainly different now. we already broke up. here's the related discussion (not a referral link) http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1939783.aspx anyway, i would like to thank you for the quick reply at that time. i was not able to response but it sure did help me.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
5 Feb 09
I hate waiting too. It leaves me impatient when I am outside and someone wouldnt turn up on agreed time. But in your case it wasn't your fault. He should know that he changed the schedule and should be considerate. And 10 minutes is too short a notice to ask someone to leave especially if you have some work at hand. Reason out with him calmly and avoid fighting.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
thanks nikky28! i really appreciate your response at that time, though i was not able to reply right away. . . everything's okay for now. i just hope it won't happen again!
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
don't you think you are so inconsiderate? just because you are so familiar with him that you can just do what ever you want with your time. what if it was a business appointment , i bet you would be sure that you get there early or if it is you r long lost friend, definitely you will rushing out of the office the soonest that you can. you were given enough time to fix up and finsh work .so, be considerate of the time , if you do not want to wait then don't make people wait, too.
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hello tigerdragon... i would have been the one waiting for him, if he didn't change the time, as we have originally agreed. thanks for the response, appreciate it much!
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@daddyfree (122)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
I am so sorry to hear that Ysabel...I think your bf is a hot temper one or maybe he has issues with the time. Some people is kinda strict about the time and would not even listen to what we have to say or reason out to them. We just need to understand them and just relax. We are not the one who are mad.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hello daddyfree, ... you know what, he is indeed hot tempered guy! its not only that he has issues with time in particular, but he has a very bad temper i should say. so its when he's mad at simple things, he cannot control his temper and that's where everything gets so complicated! thanks for the reply, daddyfree.. i really appreciate it at that time, though i was not able to respond to your comment right away.
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
4 Feb 09
[i]Hi Ysabel, It happened to me and hubby too but after a few minutes, we will just patch up! LOL! ANyway, it was his fault not yours so for sure, he will realize that! [/i]
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hi checapricorn! nice of you, only after a few minutes? ours, it took more than a week for him to realize he's wrong! waahhhhh! ... but everything is okay, for now! . thanks for the reply, i really appreciate it.
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• Philippines
4 Feb 09
i do understand how and what you're feeling right now.. but try to relax.. i think your boyfriend is over reacting.. but i know you'll patch things up.. :)
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
hello trendyclothes! thank for the reply. appreciate it very much! he indeed was over reacting and he apologize a week after. we're okay now (so far!) he he he
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@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
That was totally unfair. I wouldn't have put up with it. That was very inconsiderate of him to make you rush like that to finish your job when he was unreasonable with the time frame he was allotting for you. I hope that never happens again. Maybe when you're all calm and better, you guys can talk about it and settle things so it won't happen again. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
hello oyenkai! that was fast! i mean i didn't expect your reply too soon. anyway, thanks for the advise given. however, this seem to be futile already, as we have broken up six days ago. **sigh** .... here's the related discussion. hope you can find time to read and please let me know of your thoughts? http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1939783.aspx thanks and happy mylotting, as always!
@mansha (6301)
• India
19 Mar 09
He sounds grumpy and how irrational, no wonder you fought but I fight with my brother over getting late . He is a lazy bum and will take hours to get dressed up and get ready to go anywhere. Even for buying groceries he will take up so much time goign out of the door that we end up fighting most of the times.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
19 Mar 09
That seems to be totally unreasonable. Though I was 15 minutes late for my date last night and he said he was going to leave if I didn't show up soon. I didn't call him because I don't normally use my cell when I drive, but it took longer than i expected cause I needed gas. Boy am I glad he didn't leave! But to change plans 10 minutes before you were supposed to leave, that is insane and he really has no right to be made at you because you had to change and alter all your work to make it.