If it happens again I am going to fight somebody............
By Queenperk
@Queenperk (192)
United States
February 4, 2009 10:48am CST
What would you do if you and your spouse had kids from previous relationships and of course when one of the kids birthday comes around the kid that's not in the household parent has a birthday party and invites the blood related child and not invite the not blood related kids?
He has 2 kids here but 4 all together and I have 2, they are close in age and the youngest one had a birhtday party (all 4 have different mothers). The 4 yr old mother gave her child a party, the 6 yr old blood sister thru dad was invited.....soooooo the grandparents take her to the party while my two are wondering why they didn't come over that weekend. He allowed the 6 yr old to go with his parents instead of taking the child his self, then he didn't tell me why the 6 yr old was dropped off at his parents until after the party was over and he had to go and get the child from his parents. Now both of my kids has had a birthday party and the same kids i'm talking about came to their parties even if it was not his weekend to have them am I wrong for feeling like I do. Do you think it was fair for him to do that to my kids? Do you think it was fair for the parents to take the child and not ask about my kids? Do you think my kids are being treated fair in this game of blood related events?
The way I see it all his kids have different mothers so that does make them step siblings or does it?
1 response
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Your post is a little confusing to read, but I think I understand your point and my thought is this - it really boils down to how all of the adults get along.
If all of you interact as one big "extended" family, then I would expect that ALL children - blood-related and non, would be invited to the parties.
If however, the adults stay pretty separated and don't really interact with each other, then I could see the non-blood related children being kept separate as well. If the adults do not feel like everyone, including all non-blood related extensions, are a family, than they will not feel obligated to invite non-blood related siblings. It is rather difficult to introduce other people's children into your family if you really don't feel like you are family to the children. It CAN be done, but I would not expect it.
@Queenperk (192)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I apologize for the confusion, The mother that had the party don't like the fact he has moved on with his life and that leaves my kids the way of fire. I get along with his family and the kids it's the mother of this one child that don't like what happened between them and then he met me one year later (after they came to an end)
I have don't have any control over any of that but I do have a say so in what he allows to happen
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
4 Feb 09
In that case I would say, let it be. The mother is obviously not going to come to terms very soon and you shouldn't try to make her include the other children, it would only lead to more tensions. Your children do not need to be a part of that. If she is the way she is, than having the other children in her home, or included in her family gatherings would only aggravate her more and this could make her (and even her family) say bad things or do bad things around the kids. Best thing in my opinion, would be to just allow her to continue seeing her child, and leave it be.
