When your family visits

@bamakelly (5193)
United States
February 5, 2009 7:44am CST
Are you genuinely happy to see your extended family when they appear at your door? Or do you wish to only see certain family members on occasion? Like Christmas, Thanksgiving,etc.
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14 responses
• Australia
5 Feb 09
Well, my extended family is large and i can't say i'm genuinely happy to see all of them. They are no hassle or impolite but together, they are too many people. I don't like crowds or be with a big bunch of people even though we're related. I guess it's alright on occasions when the lot of them come to visit, but it's slightly stressful. To say the truth i'm glad when the occasion is over.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Thanks for replying. I can see where a big bunch of people can prove to be a little too much especially around certain occasions. I think that I would feel the same way about being glad when all the pandemonium is over. To tell you the truth I am not really into big crowds too much. I like quieter settings with a little bit of company from time to time.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 09
It's common courtesy to notify me first before anyone comes to my house.I don't like surprises...it also depends on my mood...but if the person is already there,then there's no other choice but be a good host...happy lottin!
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@dragon54u (31646)
• United States
5 Feb 09
My family members all live very far away so I am happy to see them whenever they can come! I would really like it if we all lived within a couple hundred miles of each other and could visit more often.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Hi friend. Of course I thank you for replying. It sounds like your family is not able to visit as much as you would like and that is a shame. Even if they were just a couple hundred miles away that could make all of the difference. At least you could see them just a little more often if they were closer.
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I feed my entire family on Thanksgiving and yes I am truly glad to see them. There are about 40 of us all together and it gets a little cramped for space but we have a good time. If it was more than once a year I would have to re-think it!
@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Thank you for responding. It can be nice to have a big crew come over during the holidays. I think that you are right. If it was more than once a year it might be just a little too much!lol It is nice to see family on the holidays because you can get together and have a good time and share the season.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
10 Feb 09
My family is pretty close and I don't know why but anytime they come over I feel uptight and stressed out and can't wait for them to leave. Its not b/c I don't like them its just that they are in my home and its makes me feel weird. lol
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
My family is Italian and because we live in Australia there I have only my sister and my parents here. I would not mind any of my cousins coming to visit. I don't know about the parents though; they are all so dysfunctional! My father does not talk to his sister because of something that happened years ago. He never confronted her about it at the time and continued speaking to her after the event until, one day he remembered why he was mad at her and cut off all communication. Yep! They are strange! Like I said I welcome my cousins who are around my age but the parents, no thanks! Too much drama!!
@winterose (39898)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
my family doesn't show up at my door unexpected, and I am disabled and I rarely go out myself.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I live over 1100 miles from all of my family. I am always glad to see them when we get to spend time together, but there's always a sense of relief when they leave too. Being apart from them for long periods of times you realize that you've changed your ways of life, as well as they have. It's always nice to have that visit though.... Some of my family, i'm grateful I only have to mingle with them on the major holidays. They are my family and I accept and respect that fact but we just don't see eye to eye on alot of things.
@crystal8577 (1469)
• United States
5 Feb 09
It depends. I host a lot of different occassions at my house. That means there are 14 people here. I can get stressed out & overwhelmed trying to do all of the cooking, cleaning & entertaining. I run myself down & am ready for everyone to go home early. I prefer a small gathering. As long as people do not argue & start fights I am usually happy to see them.
@SueD823 (371)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I love my in-laws. My immediate family, I could care less for. There is a big giant invisible elephant lurking at our occasions. There are several extended members of my family that I adore, but just a handful. I don't believe that blood is thicker than water and I don't believe that I have to have a relationship with my immediate family. They are mean spirited and judgmental. I would rather surround myself with people that aren't! :)
@savypat (20245)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I'm always glad to see all of them, but I'm also glad when they go away. And I;'m glad when no one starts a fight. Not physical just verbal but i don't like fighting.
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I rarely see my extended family. To be honest I don't really like very many of them. On holidays it is usually my parents, brothers, and sister. Of all of them I like seeing them except my dad. Family holidays are going to be a little different for me and the kids from know on because they will not be around my dad anymore.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I think we all have some family that we wish would only come around once in awhile...I know I do. Thankfully most of my family knows that I don't do the whole "drop in and chat" thing. If I invite you over, your welcome. If not, don't bother. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
hi bamakelly! honestly, it depends on who is on the other side of the door. i mean, they can be family by blood, but your blood can also boil by the mere sight of them. there are really obnoxious family members who you would rather disown. and aside from the genetics that are running in your blood, there is nothing in common with you. and what i hate are freeloaders and families who outlive their welcome. and they think that because you are family, they are entitled to everything in your house. that is just absurd. anyway, it depends on what kind of family i have. but yeah, there are those i am excited to see, while there are those that i would rather avoid for the rest of my life. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting!