i know you love me, Mom... but will you ever learn to let me go?
February 6, 2009 2:43am CST
Have you ever had the feeling that your Mom doesn't want to let you go? Of course we all know that a mother's love is incomparable, unconditional and even indescribable. However, there are some of us who might feel that our Mom's are holding onto us a little bit too tight. They give us the reason that they just want the best for us, just like the saying "Mother's know best." And there is no doubt about that. Because of this, they wish to avoid allowing us to make our own mistakes, saying that they love us too much to see us get hurt, or they just want to stop us before we get ourselves into trouble. But don't you think that children need to make their own mistakes in order to grow? That mother's have to let them go at some point to teach them how to stand on their own feet? Don't you think it's too much for mothers to decide for us what kind of jobs we should take, or whom we should marry, or what kind of life we are supposed to live? And with all this, with all the love our mothers have showered upon us, all the sacrifices they've made for us, would you ever have the heart to stand up to your mother even once, just to fight for something or someone?
6 Feb 09
..you are right.. there are mothers who are over protective of their child.. They worry too much about their child.. they think they are not capable enough to make their own decisions.. but that's mom.. we understand them.. however, it is always nice to talk to them in a way that they will understand the fact that if we are not going to learn to stand alone, we will always be depending on them.. what if the time will come that they are not there for us, where will we go right?..
6 Feb 09
Well, before I got married, there were lots of unexpected things that happened. My mom fainted, my dad went home right away from abroad, my aunt wanted to petition me to live in America, my relatives called me, I was out in the house for quite sometime etc... of course, imagine that i decided to get married at the age of 19. But no one could stop me even my mom. My mom loves me so much as I am her fave among my siblings. But i couldn't let go of my love that we wanted to get married that time. As time passes by, mom was trying to accept the fact and soon, she let me go. She even loves my husband as her son and my daughter. I love my mom so much, but I couldn't help that they would let me be away from my love. So, we tried our best for her forgiveness and it did happened. You'll be a mom, too. So, right now, do the best things for your mom. Let her feel that she's more important than anyone else. Ask her patiently why she doesn't like your someone. Just ask why, why, why.. and try to let her understand your side, too.. Cheers, abby^^
6 Feb 09
Well, its actually a lot more complicated than that. But thanks for the advice Yina.^^ I guess moms really just want what's best for us, but I can't help but think, aren't we going to remain dependent on them if we always let them think and do what they think is best for us?
6 Feb 09
my mother is very understanding parent to all of us but now that we have our own life and family, i have less time to visit my mother and it really hurts me because i am distant apart to my mother and when i have a time to visit her together with my husband and kids, it does not get me have some bondings because i have my family to manage especially my husband.