You're FIRED!

@hdjohnson (2981)
United States
February 6, 2009 6:31am CST
OMG ~ What is a person to do after hearing those words from his employer? At first fear sets in, and then all of the responsibility questions like: How am I going to eat? How am I going to pay the bills? How am I going to be able to take care of my rent/mortgage? How am I going to be able to tell my family? Will they leave me or will they stay? Personally, I've only dealt with this sort of situation as a young man, not really knowing exactly what to do. I've been blessed to be with the same employer for the past 9+ years. I'm seen many friends come and go from this employer over the years. Many of them share their experiences with me and they say they'd never return. Some of them say, they wish they could return. What's your experience been like?
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I worked at the same company for 17 years and was still fired.. We knew someone was going to have to go and the stress level on the job was about as high as it could get, so I was thankful, at first.. When I heard that I was fired, I had been off sick for 3 days, with a doctors note, and this was the first time in about 12 years that I had been sick enough to stay at home... Anyway, we knew someone was going to get fired, I never dreamed it would be me.. The job was getting very stressful and I had been going to school at night to get a certificate in Medical transcription, when I found out that I was the one chosen to go, I believe it was because I had more seniority, more paid vacation time and more perks than anyone else simply because I had worked for them for so long.. I was happy at first, no more of the stress, no more putting up with jerks, I was free from all of this finally.. Until reality set in and I found out that my insurance that I had been paying 100.00 a month for was going up to 500.00 a month and that was with no income of my own.. I then got scared.. After we thought it out and did some figuring, I was able to stay at home for awhile and I didn't have to work anymore.. All in all, I did miss my job and my friends so very much, but I also got over it in time.. I would love to go back to work doing the same thing but I don't think that I ever will, especially with the economy the way it is.. It is hard enough for younger people to get jobs, I know they would never consider a senior citizen, even though I could work circles around the young ones..
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Donna, is probably referringh to Cobra, after you live a job they offer you Cobra in order to continue your insurance. When I lost my job, Initially, i was relieved because I knew there would no longer be job related stress in my life. I cried, because i knew that I was going to run into a problem paying my bills. I am eligible for unemployment, but I am only getting 60% of what my pay was, and that other 40% is really missed. I was really scared, because my husband was not working at the time. It is such a bitter sweet feeling. Seven months later, I still have not found a job, more and more people are losing their jobs and it is hard trying to find one. I have no insurance at all, there is no way I was able to pay the premiums for Cobra, it's terrible, and I would not wish this on anyone.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Sudalunts I know how you feel regarding the no insurance ordeal, even with a full-time job. I've changed my eatings habits. I no longer eat out no wear as much as I used too. I stopped drinking coffee. I eat more vegetables, now more so than ever. And I am loving life. I am thankful that God has spared my life, for such a time as he would see fit to take me away. It's not just the people without jobs that are dealing with the no insurance deals. I know quite a few people with jobs that don't have it either.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Why on earth would your insurance sky rocket by 400%? Was it originated through that job? Donna you're a hoot of a gal! ~ Thanks for sharing.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
7 Feb 09
Most of the times, I'm the one serving termination notices (as HR officer). Usually the department heads found a way to disappear when it's time to serve the notice. They were all cowards, didnt even have the courage to stay back to say goodbye. To be honest, it's more stressful to hand out the pink slips, not knowing what to say, not knowing whether meet his/her eyes, not knowing to shake hands or not. The only time at the receiving end was 5 years ago, the company I worked closed down. All of us were retrenched. We were really relieved and in festive moods. For months, the company was in bad financial situation, salary often delayed for weeks. Guess it's better to know earlier when the company is closing down, than to keep in suspense.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I do not envy your present job, not one little bit. I've had to be the one to let some people go as a previous Director over three departments. They both were in leadership and both were doing similar things that were simply unprofessional, and at the place I worked, sinful and one was in the area of harassment. Although they never touched anyone physically, our people were touched verbally, which in my opinion is worse. Anyway, I didn't have a choice in the matter, I had to be in the room as they were confronted. One was totally regretful and repentant, and the other was denying the allegations against him, but several employees all gave similar testimony that this person was indeed operating in an unprofessional manner. It was EYE OPENING, to say the least.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Like I said before, I do not envy your present job, not one little bit. You're better equipped to handle it, based on your training I'm sure. The scenarios with me, that was my on the job training at the time. It was just good that I was able to find out about the situation as I was very personable with all of the staff. So many of them would trust me to tell me about things, they wouldn't tell their own managers that they reported too.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
7 Feb 09
The worst cases: a. Terminating a foreign worker who tested positive for HIV. His work permit would not be renew due to his medical condition. The worst about this case was that the worker was unable to grasp the severity of his illness, and the whole company knew about it, since he was repeatedly sent for blood tests. b. Terminating a new foreign worker less than 2 weeks in service. He failed the medical test for application of work permit. He had paid more than $8,000 to agent for a chance to come Singapore to work. He cried all the way to the airport. There's no way his family could repay the loan.
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• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Hi there. Well, considering that it's been barely 1 1/2 years since I started working, no, I haven't heard that line yet and, no matter how much I gripe about wanting to resign and find a better paying job, I still don't want to get fired by my employer - if I'm going to leave, I want it to be on my terms. I can just imagine how much a blow to a person's ego that would be, though. If that were to happen to me, I'd also probably panic about those "responsibility questions", as you termed them. It's quite difficult, especially if it's not only yourself you're working to sustain. Also, considering the current global financial crisis, work isn't that easy to come by. So yeah... Oh, and congratulations on finding yourself such a good job. Nine years is quite amazing.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Such a valuable lesson you shared. Thanks for the compliment by the way. I went to a leadership meeting just today, and they were saying how people shouldn't quit their jobs because they got passed up for a promotion, and that people shouldn't quit their jobs especially if they do not have another job lined up, since the economy is the way it has been.
@tewiawi (63)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I also experienced getting fired just recently but it was been told indirectly. What makes me sad knowing that the employer had his decision already. Little did me and my friend know, we were still working and after a few hours the message was delivered to us that we can no longer work for his company. Though we didn't do wrong but maybe he wasn't satisfied. But we actually did our best.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Doing your best is what's important. (Welcome to mylot BTW). Sometimes it helps to ask the employer if you are doing the job to their satisfaction. Ask if you could receive a preliminary review to let you know where you stand and always get it in writing, no verbal stuff, unless you absolute trust the employer's word. That way you will know where you stand with your performance and if you need to improve, you can do the necessary things you need to improve. If you're doing a satisfactory job already, ask if there anything that the employer believes you could do to do a more than satisfactory job. This proves to the employer that you care about the company and your job. That you are a serious worker/employee and that he/she is probably blessed to have you on their staff/department. If the make any suggestions, then great. If they say something like, "you're doing a fine job, just keep up the good work." Then you know that you will have to search for something within the job yourself that can make that position better or make the job easier to perform, by improving a process in the job that saves the company money and the employee less stress in performing the job. That is how you go about impressing the employer.
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
The sad thing about it was we were never had an evaluation. It happened so suddenly that neither of us thought it would come that way. Though we were given an exam for their customer service position and the employer told us " don't worry, you won't get fired if they do get bad". It was very surprising to know the result though we answered well on the exam. I can't help thinking that he tricked us or he had plans already to fire us on our job. So sad... waaaaaaaaahhhhhhh.......
@akari11 (82)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I never been fired, I usually the one who render my resignation letter. But if I get fired I will definitely be stressed and sad.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Don't be, just continue to keep your skills sharp and yourself marketable. Write down your your best attributes about your skills in the form of a resume and keep that information updated at all time.
@mrgeebee (133)
• United States
7 Feb 09
pretty much the same thoughts as youve printed . if you got fired for being stupid , oh well suffer the consequences , if you got it for company cutbacks , theres unemployment , if you family is tight and loving and understanding , well no worries ther , just start cutting back on luxurys and keep plugging away .
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Straight forward response, thanks for that. (BTW welcome to mylot).
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
with the economy here and the line of business I could only get (not my choice) I heard those words many times, and I had to go out and look for more work, now I don't work anymore but the pressure of being able to pay my bills is always there.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I hope you are able to find more work from what you need to overcome these challenges.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
My first reaction was weird...I was like ... YES! I'm free! , but then when I got out of the office and was with my boyfriend...I started crying. lol. It was then that I realize, that I was stepping out of my comfort zone...it was my very first job. A job that I got when I was still a student. And I've made lots of friends there. I get along with my supervisors and my teammates really well.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
6 Feb 09
No one would be comfortable, especially if they didn't see it coming or didn't have a clue how their boss felt about them. Here's a handerchief for your watery eyes. ~~~~~~~~~~~ [] (gives handerchief)
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
6 Feb 09
i've heard that a few time in my life. i was more worried to tell my wife then anything else. but i never had too many problme getting jobs
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Good to see that you were able to recover nicely with other jobs. I've never really had a problem getting jobs either. So, I wouldn't worry at all, my new full time job, would be to find one. That's how to get another one. Let all your friends know you're looking, as around from previous co-workers etc... That's why I believe it is in everyone's best interest to never burn a bridge in a relationship.
@delkar (1712)
• Romania
6 Feb 09
i`m still young. I`ve worked just for 3 months, but i leaved that job. So, i don`t really know how it is, but i must say that it`s verry sad when you see thouse that loose their job, and like you said, they don`t have what to eat, how to pay for all that they use, and so on. It`s verry sad. For that, i must say that i`ll always have some money, for thouse days, i know that it will not be easy to earn some money, and keep them, but we must do that, because sooner or later we`ll live thouse days.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I've heard that is it in everyone's best interest to save enough money to be able to do whatever you want to do for at least 6 months, in the event you are FIRED. But with today's economy, it would be prudent to have at least 18 to 24 months worth of savings.
• United States
6 Feb 09
Well it depends on the situation the person is in! I would say beg for the job back if you screwed up.(lol) But if you were looking for another job or had something lined up I would tell the boss to take the job and shove it. Being let go because of a layoff is much harder on a person in my opinion, because it comes as a suprise and most people were their because they like the job or it paid well. I have been fired and it makes you feel angry and ready to go postal, but it was my lack of going to work that cause it so I couldn't blame anyone but myself. That issue made me grow up very quick and now I take my position of three years my only means to pay bills and be happy so I stay clear of screw ups. Some employers have high turn overs because the managers or hiring staff are not fair or they expect more from one person than they would another. And sometimes just because they don't like the person even if they are a good worker. You can't do much about it but suck it up and keep it moving.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Wow, that's a response for ya! No, but seriously, I wouldn't ever tell an employer to take the job and shove it. You never know how important an former employer can end up being, so far as a good reference to future employers. Or maybe sometime in the future, that old position may come available and that old boss you may have not liked you, may have moved on. No I say, it's best to not burn any bridges, and just leave with the utmost dignity, grace and professionalism.